LET THAT MAN GO. you're not holding on because you love him so much. you're holding on because you're hoping he will change and treat you the way you deserve. you keep telling yourself that maybe one day he will act right, but if he wanted to, he would have already done it. his actions, the excuses, and the broken promises already show you his character. you don't have to stay in pain just to be chosen. and love should not be something you have to beg for.
When a man doesn't change, it's not confusion; it's a choice. Men change for what they fear losing. If he knows he's hurting you and does nothing, that's your answer. A man who wants you fixes himself without being begged.If he isn't changing,he's already comfortable losing you.
You call her toxic now. But you met her when she was kind, open, and trusting. Before the lies. Before the betrayal. Before she had to protect herself from you. She became guarded because you kept hurting her. She became reactive because you kept crossing lines.
She became tired because she kept choosing you while you chose yourself. That wasn't toxicity. That was damage. And expecting her to stay soft after everything you put her through is the real denial. You didn't lose a good woman. You changed her, then blamed her for the result.
When a narcissist realizes they can’t control you, their next move is to try to hurt you by controlling the narrative. They twist stories, play the victim, and convince others that you’re the problem, all because they lost control of you. It’s a deliberate attempt to rewrite the truth through manipulation.