Matt

Helping men break the relationship and emotional patterns they are tired of repeating.

Attachment work that actually works ❤️‍🔥

[Matt @MettaMatta]

Benefits I’ve noticed after 1 year of attachment work:

1) I show up more as my authentic self. 90% less self-monitoring and self-managing.

2) I can completely let go and feel things deeply. Music, food, friendships etc. all have a glow to them they didn’t have before.

3) My relationships with my parents have vastly improved. I show up with zero resentment, and tons of gratitude. This change in perception shifts how they relate to me.

Longer conversations. More depth. Way more love.

4) A sense of emotional mastery. Hard days where I would have spiraled into shame/blame/depression become… totally okay.

The felt sense that I can handle almost anything. That I can always return to a secure base of connection, trust, and safety on demand.

5) Self-image has completely shifted. I used to have this internal model that I was flawed, broken, incomplete, not up to the tasks of life.

Now, I feel like Bruce Wayne.

Vast resources.

Innately capable.

Ready to fight against adversity and suffering from a place of near infinite wholeness.

6) A kind of social magnetism. Feels like people are drawn to me, and seek me out at work, in public, etc.

I’m more open, available, and receptive to connection.

My body language and expressions were closed off.

Not anymore.

7) At ease with intimacy and with solitude.

Can bounce between both without anxiety or worrying that the relationship is at risk.

Intense flexibility and freedom. Wouldn’t have dreamed this was possible years ago.

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There are a bunch more, but these feel most alive to me right now.

This is the work, guys.

It goes way beyond surface level improvements, self-development systems, or mindfulness meditation.

It’s deep. It’s tender. Maybe the most challenging work you’ll ever do.

But on the others side is liberation from almost everything that holds you back in your relationships, and sense of self.

If you feel pulled towards this, send me a DM.

We’ll walk through your attachment patterns and I’ll give you a tailored recovery plan.

An inner transformation you’ve dreamed of is waiting.

Here’s your invitation to claim it.

[Matt @MettaMatta]

@LeighStJohn33 Ahhh I totally see that for you haha

Wise mentor energy

Zorba is great — fully alive, deeply in contact with life

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“I felt once more how simple and frugal a thing is happiness: a glass of wine, a roast chestnut, a wretched little brazier, the sound of the sea. Nothing else.”

[Matt @MettaMatta]

“Just feel your feelings”

If you are insecurely attached, this ain’t gonna work.

You developed sophisticated defence mechanisms to protect you from your own feelings.

Update the models, and gradually increase capacity.

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I would give every dollar I have to rewind the tape and develop secure attachment in my 20s.

It’s that powerful.

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@tasshinfogleman They are usually receptive to this, and appreciate it.

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@tommyswriting As a Canadian I’m mortally offended by this uncalled for attack

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@occamsriver Zorba the Greek 🥳

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@danielbrottman Yes it’s exquisite 🥹

[Matt @MettaMatta]

Fear of being seen is an attachment wound.

It's what separates you from the business connections, intimate relationships, and personal growth you seek.

Might be the most important work of your life.

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I've been noticing:

In situations where I used to fall into worry loops and self-doubt...

There's an equanimity there now.

A soft peace beneath it all.

A knowing that this is all part of the dance, and that my self-worth isn't tied up in any of it.

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@ronald_obj_ai @basedethos

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@Theholisticpsyc Deep, secure human connection is the ultimate fortune

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@amberlyrastudio Ahh that’s perfect!

Very happy for you—the relaxed space is what is most important

[Matt @MettaMatta]

Meditation is not what most people think it is.

It’s a tool to access states of deep bliss, and cut through layers of false perception…

To discover what is true, beautiful, and good.

It’s a way to savour life itself.

The breath is just the beginning.

[Matt @MettaMatta]

@amberlyrastudio So much is possible!

Curious about the coping mechanism part, I don’t find it to be

[Matt @MettaMatta]

Meditation is not what most people think it is.

It’s a tool to access states of deep bliss, and cut through layers of false perception…

To discover what is true, beautiful, and good.

It’s a way to savour life itself.

The breath is just the beginning.

[Matt @MettaMatta]

@SamaHoole 70 years later

So much “progress”

[Matt @MettaMatta]

@sheshn94 Healing means facing reality if it’s done right

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@atltantrayoga Amen 🙏

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@AdamLaneSmith Usually anger, fear, and sadness.