You see, I am usually tough on men who choose the path of marrying single mothers and becoming the child's stepped-up father. But I read this and almost shed a tear for the man involved.
I want every man to read this.
You'll never be happy with a single mother if you marry one. The chances of disappointment, I believe, are far greater than the opposite, and for the following reasons.
Women have a poor memory of their privileges and a sharp memory of their sacrifices. That is to say, no matter what you do for a woman, she rarely holds your sacrifices in higher regard than her own, or than the sacrifices she once made for another man.
In the case of a single mother, your sacrifices will never fully displace the memories of what she gave in her previous relationship with the child's father. Consequently, you may never receive the degree of priority that you afford her.
Every deadbeat father, baby daddy was, at some point, a man she deeply loved. And women in love make sacrifices. So, sacrificing your way into her heart may earn you responsibility, but not necessarily devotion or appreciation. Her emotional history is already crowded with memories from the relationship that made her a single mother.
Your relationship will not stop her from f*cking her baby daddy if the opportunity presents itself.
You will play the role of the child's father and still never enjoy the benefits you imagined would accompany that role.
It is also worth stating that heavy lifting for a woman does not guarantee a degree of commitment proportionate to that effort. It guarantees nothing.
Part of the reason, is that women, throughout the vicissitudes of time, have remained the primary objects of men's benevolence. Every time a man went out of his way, it was often done to make a woman's life easier or more secure.
This singular habit, compounded over generations, has produced women who see men's chivalry, even in romance, less as an extraordinary gesture and more as something naturally expected. A prerogative.
You are not the first man to do it, nor will you be the last. Consequently, your sacrifices may not register in the female psyche as grand acts demanding equal commitment or devotion in return.
Another reason why heavy lifting your way into a woman's life may fail to produce the outcome you desire is that appreciation requires perspective.
Women do not make man-level kind of sacrificing. Women therefore can never understand enough to appreciate enough.
Women cannot fully appreciate burdens they have never had to carry themselves. When one is unfamiliar with a particular kind of sacrifice, one lacks the reference points necessary to measure its weight.
Without that reference, effort is often underestimated. And when effort is underestimated, gratitude becomes inadequate. Never enough.
The point is, sacrifice and appreciation do not always grow in equal proportion, and effort alone is no guarantee of the affection or loyalty for which it was spent. Don't heavy lift your way into a woman's life. Not the average woman. Not the single mother. It guarantees nothing. Nothing.
@OP_senju I feel like the writers used to go do the path of weapon enhanced bending such as the fans for air and the sword enhanced fire bending which Zuko used. Would love to see more of it tho
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