@bendellwerry And unfortunately the therapy-ization and feminization of church counseling infiltrates marriages before they even happen via pre-marital counseling.
We often hear messages like this, but I wonder if the real regret relates more to legacy broadly than family specifically.
For too many people, their primary job involves little they feel builds a legacy—little that really matters to their kids, their community, or their country. While the money earned can be used to further meaningful projects (especially family), there is a diminishing marginal return to this, and for people with options it often doesn't make up for a lack of broader purpose.
Family time is the most tangible connection to legacy most people have, so it's natural those who feel little satisfaction in their work wish they had spent more time on this.
Sasse did not seem to enjoy his time in the Senate, and routinely seemed frustrated about the ability to achieve his goals. It's no surprise he would regret time spent on this instead of his family.
But this need not be the case for our work. The most satisfying endeavors involve building businesses, institutions, and networks our children can inherit... and building the country we want our grandchildren to live in. These will often involve time away from family, but they will be legacy projects that our families can enjoy and continue.
Our takeaway should to consider how we can ensure as many of our efforts as possible—across work, family, and community—contribute to building such a legacy.
"Whenever I go into a boy’s room, I care not how humble it may be, if I find the Bible and a few well-chosen books upon the shelf, and a pair of dumb-bells on the floor in the corner, I always feel that that boy’s future is full of hope and promise."
Sylvanus Stall
This is an interesting study in female “word casting”.
This woman’s tone and delivery are perfect. She’s also fluent in Christianese, where “gift from God” is the good-good word and “idol” is the bad-bad word.
In this moment, said woman feels good about young women pursuing careers, bad about young women waiting for marriage.
Therefore marriage (a literal sacramental gift from God) is an idol, and pursuing materialism in the marketplace (a literal idol) is a gift from God.
White is black and black is white, because this women’s isn’t communicating theology, she is communicating how she feels.
Benjamin Franklin tore up the notion of America being a mere economic zone early on, saying foreign masses and manufactures imported will only diminish the American people.
‘Gain for the merchant cannot justify loss to the Nation’
@HVNYrefugee This reminds me of a walk I took through a graveyard in the Florida panhandle last summer. The number of small gravestones for infants and children was crushing. Many with the epitaph:
“Sleep my child & take thy rest
God called thee home, He thought it best”
Still wrecks me.
Excellent thread. I’ll add after my recent read-through:
God’s people are blessed through ordered worship. From Israel’s ordering in 1st Chronicles to Paul’s ordering of elders in the NT, the theme is clear: God’s people need faithful men leading in Word and song.
I read the whole Bible once through this year.
In no particular order, here are a few off the cuff observations.
1) It wasn't hard. If you can find 2 hours of time a day where you may normally listen to an audio book, watch a show, or listen to music, you can do this
Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools. Wherefore God gave them up to their vile afflictions, and men sold their souls for quick profits and the promises of great riches. And lo they did not honor their children nor their people, but desired only riches and vain things.
And so it came to past that the great furnaces fell silent, and no longer was the sound of hammer upon steel heard in the land. No longer did men and machines dig ore from the ground and smelt it, nor did they bring forth any new metal. And the machinery within lay dormant and rusted over and went back to the dust.
And it came to pass that a once great people despaired and became poor. And the people crept among the ruins of the things built by their fathers and did not understand. A great darkness settled upon the land. Men were given over to merchants of poisons and ministered deaths to gain. They forsook that which was good for the folly of bread and circuses.
And so they cried out to the Lord, but their cries went unanswered.
Christians, you have got to stop being so gullible. Seriously, your naivete might feel warm and nice and friendly, but that's not how Christian love works.
A friend shared a viral post that listed all the un-Christlike things ICE is supposedly doing, such as using "children as bait," "shooting unarmed protesters," "teargassing families," and "terrorizing immigrant communities and people of color."
The whole post goes on and on like this, and it's dripping with moral outrage and emotional manipulation. What troubles me is that so many people share this like it's wise and insightful. This is textbook emotional ambush. No argument, no evidence, just big feelings.
But I'll tell you what isn't Christlike, and I've got scripture to back it up. Being GULLIBLE.
It isn't Christlike to be gullible. It isn't Christlike to believe and share debunked propaganda. It isn't Christlike to be led by your emotions. It isn't Christlike to outsource your critical thinking skills to the leftwing activists in the mainstream media.
So why are Christians so gullible? It's because they've been trained to think love means whatever it feels like in your happy place. If you do something that *feels* compassionate and think that's what Jesus wants you to do, you're wrong. Biblical love isn't about pointing your emotions in a particular direction. Rather, biblical love is defined by actions and attitudes prescribed in scripture. How you feel about it is of secondary concern.
What does the scripture say? "And it is my prayer that your love may abound more and more, with knowledge and all discernment, so that you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless for the day of Christ." (Philippians 1:9-11)
First, notice what Paul prays for: that "your love may abound more and more." Clear enough. We're talking about genuine Christian love. But Paul qualifies it.
Second, "with knowledge and all discernment." In other words, Christian love is a thinking love. To discern is to make proper distinctions and draw clear moral boundaries. But why is that important?
Third, these things matter so "you may approve what is excellent, and so be pure and blameless." In other words, we need knowledge and discernment to anchor our love in what is good and right. Or as Paul says, to "approve what is excellent."
This sort of discerning love is "pure and blameless." If love lacks discernment, then is ceases to be pure and blameless. In fact, undiscerning "love" is not real love. It is all feelings and no wisdom. That's what we're seeing in Minneapolis. Christians claim to be "loving the stranger" without understanding proper biblical categories. It's love without discernment, and it's causing a lot of harm.
Paul's prayer is for love PLUS knowledge PLUS discernment. Love requires discernment. Period. Discernment is the rope that keeps people tethered to reality. Without it, love becomes a weapon that evil people use against you.
Without discernment, love gets twisted into a sentimental monstrosity. For the gullible and undiscerning, this kind of pseudo "love" claims the moral high ground. It does have some rhetorical advantages, which is why so many people fall for it. It sounds biblical enough to convince undiscerning people it must be right. But it's not. These are not arguments or facts. They are ear tickling slogans, nothing more.
Discerning love is pure and blameless. Undiscerning love is impure and blameworthy. It's obvious that the unhinged rioters and agitators bear the blame for their actions. But their Christian enablers bear some of the blame too. To claim the mantle of Christlikeness in service of lawlessness is evil, even if the one doing it is simply misguided.
The blame belongs to those Christians who are so desperate to feel compassionate that they'll believe anything, question nothing, and call it love.
Christians, we are morally responsible for how we love. We don't just get to feel sorry for an illegal immigrant and "stand up" for them and call it love. That's not love, no matter how strongly you feel it. Love does not spread leftist propaganda, "love rejoices with the truth" (1 Cor 13:6).
So, for all the gullible Christians who are angrily venting about ICE, your Christian love is not pure. It is not blameless. You are functioning as agents of chaos. You bear the blame for your irrational outrage.
So I'll say it again. Being gullible is a sin. Being undiscerning is a morally culpable act. It is wrong to carelessly wield the name of Christ, making false accusations against law enforcement and making excuses for criminals.
Your emotions and subjective ideas of Christlikeness don't dictate reality. Truth does. And truth requires discernment, not just feelings. We don't get to emote all over the place and call it love.
So Christians, stop being gullible. Start being discerning. That's what real love requires.