MissGiraffe

Account for kink & shouting into the void. Queer femme(?) dominant early 30s. Kink has always been political.

Actually quite short 🦒

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

@JulianKJarboe I also never know how to answer the “how do you work with people who are different than you” social justice nonprofit job interview question. I treat them… like people? And do they want just a buzzwords list of examine my privilege/listen and learn?!

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

@JulianKJarboe Always good to find another person who hates these questions! I had to write on this in grad school and got feedback Iike “you need to say more about how your complicated feelings around gender impact you” and that’s not their business! That’s personal!

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

@StinkRatsCharms And it feels absurd to refer to a “people with disabilities community” - it doesn’t sound right even in English because a community is by definition a group of people with some common characteristic - ie the disabled community (or, more accurately, disabled communities).

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

@StinkRatsCharms That said, I do say I’m disabled (identity first). I don’t know that I personally care deeply how others refer to me, but it is interesting that being disabled does feel more akin to a part of my identity, while the specific disabilities very much do not.

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

@TMROJ Agreed. AND - step by step. We’re so far from being publicly kinky being acceptable for any public figure and in lots of careers (jury’s still out on whether his privilege will be enough); if this moves us even a little, amazing.

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

@joshstrap13 This is not the definition of stigma, the noun and concept, defined as “a set of negative and unfair beliefs that a society or group of people have about something” and “a mark of shame or discredit”.

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

@joshstrap13 People might be confusing destigmatizing and normalizing. Stigma is negative beliefs about a group of people; destigmatizing substance use and people who use drugs is good public health. Normalizing is making substance use a community norm, which is prob not what’s being argued.

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

@DominiqueJL15 Well damn! Way to power couple!

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

@janhopi THIS. I know I’m laughing at it leftistly (technically I’m crying at it and sending it to all my friends who maybe thought my queer nonprofit stories were a *little* far out going “SEE!!!” - but Im doing all that leftistly). But we do NOT need this out in the general public.

[NYTPitchbot @DougJBalloon]

My kids have measles, I can't afford gas, and our senile rapist president is going to allow unregulated AI to destroy our civilization. But a lesbian bar in a town I've never heard of still has a mask mandate. I have never felt more politically homeless.

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

@femmecamp THIS. Like we do need to talk about this (and yeah, I’m not going to pretend I’m not also interested in a little gossip) but not like this, not during a backlash.

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

So unfortunately the things people are saying about how evil the bar is not only resonate as totally normal things for people to say in “radical” queer spaces, but I could literally anticipate most of the criticisms before even reading them.

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

Ok so on the one hand, the Boston Globe article is definitely not the type of queer leftist dirty laundry we need aired, esp not during a backlash.

But on the other hand it’s basically what my day job was for nearly 3 years at a queer org. And now I’m broke and my career’s

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

you’re worried are hiring staff out, even though I agree with you, they are burning staff out, but my boss disagrees and she’s the only one with the authority to change things so oh wait never mind you’re yelling at me again 🙃

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

And historically politics, along with teachers, has been least open to what’s considered sexual deviance. As some have pointed out, as more of us millennials get into leadership this will happen more and more. But we’re also in a backlash. So we’ll see, but for now a bit of hope!

[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

I don’t know anything about Gallant’s politics (though I’m assuming I’m not diametrically opposed to the gay kinkster), but it’s been really good to see his response to this as a queer kinkster who has been terrified my whole career of being outed. Maybe some things are changing!

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[MissGiraffe @MissGiraffe12]

my kinkiness on dating apps. But I also got outed and shamed while working at a queer youth org for that! (Admittedly not by leadership, but my private life was still made public.) So jury’s still out on how safe it is to be out and involved in any type of public-facing work.