Please oh, yahoo boys in the house.. (a.k.a thieves).. how do you people do it? I mean your conscience..
Yesterday, I made a 50k transfer to a POS man. I did this on my way to get some things as I didn't have my card with me.
I received an alert later in the evening, and the balance wasn't corresponding. It was 50k higher than what I expected to have left in the account. Curious, I checked immediately and realised the 50k I earlier sent to that POS man either didn't go through, or was reversed. The man didn't even bother to check if it dropped before I left. Probably because I was already in a cab. He also had a few customers he was attending to.
I quickly hailed a bike as I stepped out, straight to his stand. He had closed for the day.
I was restless within me. You know why? He would go home, and find out he's short of 50k. He would not be happy, he would feel pained. He's a family man, he has kids he needs to feed.. he might be thinking he had lost the money. I thought of every possible emotions that man may feel over the night. I was sad for him, but happy because I knew I will get back to him by morning.
This morning, I headed to his POS stand again. He was there. He didn't even recognise me. I had to explain that I was the lady in a cab that withdrew 50k yesterday. And that the money was reversed or something. This man almost had my head with his "thank you". He kept saying.. "thank you madam, God bless you." I transferred to him and was almost on my way. He stopped me and asked "why?".
Why what?... I don't understand. It's your money.
Two men were there when this happened. One of them told the man that he was lucky, the other one said "all these one na show, if I see bombing bomb now.. everywhere go stew". I immediately knew he was an "upcoming" thief (yahoo boy).
The man kept lamenting about how much he had lost on that stand. But he keeps pushing because he has a family to take care of.
He asked me to come to his stand at anytime I probably need "help". That, he will never forget my face.
On my way, I kept pondering and asking myself how we got here. When has it become something to celebrate, that someone returns to return YOUR OWN MONEY!
If you can take something that doesn't belong to you, and be comfortable, you're no longer a human. The devil is your apprentice.
Yahoo boys, I don't like you people at all because I don't like wicked people. If you're following me, please unfollow me now and block me.
T for thanks!!!
I studied political science as a minor in the university and this was one of the books that we read and referenced in one of the courses.
Initially as young chaps this book infuriated us and we began to blame the west for our woes until we came across another book “How Africa Underdeveloped Africa”.
Till date, I have no blames or fight with the Europeans. The time for blaming them is long gone. Now it is our evil leaders who are constantly looting and ravaging the continent.
Sometimes I wonder if there’s really a problem with the black race because how can a whole continent have wicked leaders? Only the “white” part of the continent have major developments.
Africans, it is your leaders that have ravaged you, not Europeans.
Lol this is something i’ll never understand…
Wanting to dominate someone you call your partner.. And the whole conversation about being ‘submissive’
You see some wives kneeling slightly to serve their husbands food
Or in the Yoruba setting where the wife uses ‘Eh’ for the husband.
The approach feels very old school to me.
Nobody should kneel and serve me food in the name of being submissive
And nope.. This has nothing to do with respect.
I know exactly when i’m being disrespected and I sure know how to tackle that when I spot it.
How do we get Young People to become comfortable with production, innovation, and the discipline of building things at scale.
Most people seem to be Afraid of producing something. They are either hiding behind dirty environment or Producing imitation products.
How do we simplify standards, processing, manufacturing, quality control, and transformation to young People ?
One solution is for schools to introduce visits to small and medium-sized industries ( Not Just big companies like Coca-Cola).
Maybe, when children see products being made with ordinary machines, by ordinary people,- production stops looking mysterious and impossible.
Industrial confidence can be built through exposure to industrialization and innovation.
@lollypeezle This does not mean care or generosity should only exist after marriage... It simply explains why some commitments are reserved for a later stage.
Idealism matters, but so does realism.
@lollypeezle For that clarity to emerge, relationships must progress through seasons. In practice, many people mark a key season with marriage because they believe certain risks have been observed, tested, and consciously accepted.
@6E6D6D61@jon_d_doe I think this should fuel subsequent conversations on power/privileges in certain subject matters e.g. relationships, biological clock, paternity,etc.
When one gender claims they are disadvantaged. One should be able to raise such areas as this were outcomes differ for the other
@NinthHouseFemme @DanT_94@caffeinexher I think it would Apt to consult the gender that tends to date and experience that sort of relationship with females since other kind of relationship tend to be somewhat different from love relationship. I may also be wrong, if you are a 'Lesbian'?
The Sun is 99.8% of all mass in our solar system.
Even if you somehow burned Jupiter and everything that is not the Sun in a fusion reactor, the Sun would still round up to 100% of all energy.
The Sun is all that matters long-term.
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Do not underestimate the social effect of naming things to pathologize general male living conditions. This is how they create issues out of imagined oppression and build heavily funded movements and laws for social control.
Man has discomfort sitting with legs together for obvious groin reasons - manspreading.
Man has a natural (and quite honestly innocently helpful) enthusiasm in explaining things he really likes to a person he likes or would love to impress - mansplaining.
Man has a different perspective on life that sounds or feels even mildly inconvenient for women - misogyny.
Man expects care and basic decency (reciprocal) from girlfriend/wife - mankeeping.
Man gets served food in his own house - unpaid domestic labour.
Naming is a very subtle preamble to the subjugation of modern man. It starts with creating a narrative that everyone can say, "aaahh, I've also faced this." And it's always generalised things like, "every woman understands the pressure that comes with caring for a partner they love"
Bloody genius, who doesn't??
Then they either legislate, or enforce socially, any traits associated with said named problem.
You walk into an office for an interview and sit in a groin-breathability posture, they decide instantly you're going to be a problem.
You're asked a question about a niche interest on a date and explain with the enthusiasm of a 4 year old, your eyes lighting up. She texts the group chat that you're a mansplainer.
And any of these named issues come heavily coded as "abuse-adjacent". Anything they can name about your life, they can draw a direct link to you as a potential societal threat, and try to take it from you, legally or sub-legally.
Even when you finally give up on a world that won't stop spitting in your face and decide to focus on your niche hobbies and interests, totally unplugged from the drama, they will still label you "an incel", a potential "threat to the society" (women's feelings) that needs government intervention.
This pressure cooker you're putting military aged men into will not end well. For anyone.
A LETTER TO MALE GYNAECOLOGISTS: FROM A MALE GYNAE WHO HAS WORKED IN SAUDI ARABIA.
HOW TO EXAMINE WOMEN INCLUDING WOMEN ON HIJAB AND NIQAB.
And Then The Curtains Drew Close: A Woman, Her Body, and the Quiet Politics of Being Seen
Dear Anonymous Woman,
Asalamalekum,
And let me begin, as any honest storyteller should, by saying I am sorry, sorry that what should have been a moment of care became a moment of shock, sorry that the sacredness of your body met the unpreparedness of a system that should have known better.
Because, my dear, a vaginal examination is not merely a clinical act, it is a conversation between trust and tenderness, and it must never feel like an ambush. And you have every right to feel the way you do. And to the husbands, we know it isn't easy, so we carry you along, make you like a family.
And yet, here we are, living in a country where many still do not understand that Gynecology is not stumbled into, it is chosen, arduously, after years of exams, sleepless nights, and sacrifices that sometimes squeeze the soul dry. Many women, who must juggle motherhood and medicine, drift toward specialties with gentler hours, and so the corridors of Obstetrics and Gynecology continue to echo with the footsteps of men. We need more women in Obstetrics and Gynaecology!
And still, this is not an excuse, merely a truth that must sit beside your own truth.
Having worked in Saudi Arabia, a place where modesty is not merely culture but law, wrapped in hijab and niqab, I have seen how systems can be firm and gentle, strict and surprisingly accommodating. And so, walk with me through what should have happened to you, what could have protected your dignity.
You should have been told during antenatal visits that your care team might include male doctors. You should have been prepared, gently, so your heart would not leap in shock.
You should have been asked, not assumed. You should have been allowed to undress privately, with only a female chaperone beside you, holding dignity like one holds a fragile bowl of water. You should have been draped, covered first before anyone else entered.
And yes, you should have been given the simple, powerful gift of choice.
In Saudi Arabia, even with their stricter laws, male gynecologists thrive, not because women do not care, but because women are prepared. Because consent is not a whisper, it is a full sentence.
And here in Nigeria, our women deserve that too. They deserve education before examination. They deserve privacy before procedure. They deserve dignity, always.
My dear woman, your discomfort is not imaginary. It is valid and it is human.
And it is a reminder, a peeling back of the curtain, that our system must do better.
And so I say to our young women: step into Obstetrics and Gynecology if your spirit calls you. But come knowing that this path demands a piece of you, time, energy, and the soft ache of responsibility. For truly, uneasy lies the head that wears the crown.
Yet crowns must be worn by someone. And perhaps, by more women.