Dear God, this morning, I ask for your guidance and strength to navigate the day ahead. Help me to face challenges with grace, to spread kindness wherever I go, and to find joy in the moments. Bless me with clarity of mind, patience, and perseverance in all that I do. Amen.
Fellas:
Your woman telling you about another guy(s) approaching her is nothing to be proud or excited about. She'll tell you about how this guy has been pestering her non stop, despite making it clear that she's in a relationship
It doesn't make her trustworthy, rather the opposite, it's a red flag. Why? Because that's a manipulation tactic which could mean one of these 3 things
1. To give you a false sense of security, so she can actually cheat in peace
2. She's planning or already cheating & wants to see your reaction if you're to find out
3. She wants you to simp for her, by reminding you that other guys still want her
It's all bs, if a woman doesn't really want any man approaching her, she'll get rid of him smoothly without you even knowing about it. Her getting involved, is manipulation & she'll only inform you about guys she doesn't really find attractive
The day she gets hit on by a guy she perceives to be better than you, she'll never tell you till after she's secured him & that's when she'll hit you with one of these lines:
"I think we need a break"
"I don't think this is working out, no it's not you, it's me"
"I think we're better off as friends"
Never trust a woman's words, no matter how convincing she may be. Learn OR perish!!!
As a man, the moment you find yourself paying lobola/getting married to a woman you didn't devirgin, that is an admission of inferiority. Inferiority to other men who had her before you. You're literally paying for what those other men got for free. And denying this is just a coping mechanism
When you marry such a woman, you're accepting that you're such an optionless man whose only chance at mating & reproducing is by paying for what other got for free. What exactly are you paying for that other men didn't see fit to pay for?
There's no amount of rationalization that can dispute that fact. Surely enough, you'll convince yourself "there's more to a wife than just hymen". Well she still offered those other qualities to those other men for free - she cooked, cleaned, respected, supported them at some point
You can deny it all you want, but the harsh reality is you're a defeated man who settled for other men's leftovers. Learn OR perish!!!
Fellas:
Life is unkind to men. A lot of men are going through a lot in life. Sinking in depression, or worse contemplating su!cide. Some it's relationships, others unemployment, others being broke, living from hand to mouth, others loss of a loved one, others health related matters etc. No one to talk to, because no one really cares about the problems of a man
You take a look at yourself, where you are now is nowhere near where you want to be. You're getting older as each day passes & the older you get the more you lose hope. You ask yourself "Will I ever be someone in life?"
You see your peers or those younger than you seemingly doing well, progressing, getting to places without much trouble. Yet you seem stuck, tried everything, but nothing seems to just work out. You start thinking of yourself as a failure, loser, cursed, unworthy
But that's not it, even if things just aren't working out, don't give up, just hang on. Your woman may dump you cause you're broke. You may fail to financially take care of your parents & siblings. You may be a loser amongst yours peers & community
But still, just fight to stay alive. You never know what tomorrow may bring. Refuse to feel useless, depressed, unhappy & like a burden. Earth is hard. Be harder!!!