Theo

I’m a musician. I love ❤️ everyone.

[Newzroom Afrika @Newzroom405]

[WATCH] “We know that their intention is to take over our country. We fought for this country. We are not going to allow any law that says they must register,” a Soweto resident says amid heightened tensions between locals and foreign nationals. #Newzroom405

[IG:Joy-Zelda @joy_zelda]

Concerned Citizens 😢😭😳

[Man’s NOT Barry Roux @AdvoBarryRoux]

R100= 3 litres of petrol
R100 = 20 units of electricity 😭

[Wayne @WayneH__]

I have nothing further to say about this economy. If we want to see each other, it will have to be at our respective homes for tea and biscuits.

[Siv Ngesi @iamSivN]

Serial Killer silence is crazy as fuck

[Theo @MrMnikes]

I wonder how this legend is doing today

[#EndFemicideInSA @iamlindz_]

I know I’m not seeing heaven for posting this one 😭😭💀

[Amelia @amelia_tweetz]

My sister’s kids complain about being bored on road trips while holding an iPad the entire time. Meanwhile, when I was their age, I’d stare out the window for six hours and get genuinely excited if we passed a cow.

[Momo_🎱 @momo_sow0]

Les argentins pleurent parce que Messi s'en va, les portuguais pleurent parce que Ronaldo ne veut pas partir. 😭

[Giovanni Ifedi-Williams @TheGiovannis]

I did not grow up watching my parents practise 50/50.

My dad once narrated to me how my mother carried the financial responsibility of the family at a time when he had no job. After their wedding, she paid 5 years' rent with her own money. She bought him a Peugeot 504 Evolution, his first car, and was patient until he learnt how to drive. She sponsored him through his https://t.co/JWyl546KXy. at UNIZIK.

My mother worked at USAID and earned very well. Dad had no job, but was never laid back.

And this was a woman who had rejected a marriage proposal from a German man who was completely in love with her. But she chose my father because she wanted a man she could build a new life with.

My dad even told me that, apart from the bride price he paid, my mother sponsored that elaborate wedding.

Yet, in the midst of these, she never weaponized any of these. Instead, she packaged her husband differently to her family until he found favour, and got his feet elevated around 1999.

Yet throughout that period, my mother submitted to her husband 💯. I never saw her spend money without his approval. The respect she gave her husband was extraordinary.

Those two people never had an argument or disagreement in my presence.

Now, that was the marriage I grew up watching.

I observed it. I internalised it. And I began to see marriage through that lens.

My mother eventually left USAID in 2005. Today, my father is the financial pillar of the entire family.

The Anambra man literally practises 100/0 till today. He will detonate a grenade on anyone that disrespects his wife or tries come between him and his wife.

There was this day my mom took me out on a date. While we were eating, she opened up to me about why she married my father.

She told me she saw a king in him, a man fighting to build a kingdom. She talked so grand and inspiring; I just sat there eating and listening.

So when he asked her out, she said yes because she knew that God had not blessed her with resources, networks, and opportunities so she could spend them on bags, shoes, wigs, vacations and hoeing around.

She said any woman who is not willing to become the primary resource that builds her man's empire, should have no business desiring marriage.

I did not understand this as a woman becoming inferior to her man, or disappearing for her man to be seen. I understand as purpose.

People need to recognize that marriage is not two people sharing bills. It is two people building something that neither of them could have built alone.

This is why I find some of the things I read from both men and women on this app about relationships and marriage extremely wack and strange. Some of the takes sound more like foolishness acquired from life and more like people designing theories around their fears, insecurities and unresolved childhood experiences.

This is why my mother would never tolerate just any woman around me.

In fact, the woman who eventually disappointed me was someone my mother had warned me about.

And this is where my disagreement with the obsession over 50/50 begins.

I believe 50/50 people are trying to turn marriage into some accounting system where each partner must bring in half of their income for the marriage equation to balance. That's nonsense if you ask me.

In marriage, you may start with 100/0, and move to 100/50. Then, eventually, with growth, stability, opportunity and shared responsibility, you move to 100/100.

There may even be seasons where the percentages change completely. No successful marriage started on 50/50.

My point is not that one spouse must permanently carry the other.

My point is that marriage should have enough trust, vision and commitment for one person to carry more when the other cannot, without turning that sacrifice into a debt.

[Thoka🧑🏿‍🚀 @thoka_2]

Do you know how dark this level of slander is?😭😭😭

[mzansi fo sho 🇿🇦 @palesaaaaaaaaaa]

There is something deeply insidious about rebranding heritage day into a rugby homecoming aesthetic and flattening the weight of commemorating our indigenous cultures into generic symbolism. They are deliberately whitewashing everything for their own comfort and palatability.

[GlobalSouthNews @GlobalSouthNew]

Guys you can’t go to China and participate on tender processes there why we are becoming a laughing stock in our own country?

[🇿🇦TheGreatDlamini🇿🇦 @Phislash]

Yall still want the death penalty even for those 2 women that were caught? 👀

[Anunaki @Anunakin]

And that’s all you have to say after the many essays you’ve written about men. LOL

[Big Willy @bigwillySZN]

Suddenly it's "some women"

[Max @MaxNomaNini]

At some Point You People Need to Apologize to Jacinta

[knick @Knick_RSA]

There are no Roads in Zimbabwe yet you give a Zimbabwean to build roads in South Africa? Yho 💔

[M🇿🇦☦️ @M24onRSA]

I still can't believe South African taxes were being used to give foreigners tenders. My Xenophobia quadrupled overnight...I didn't think this was possible

[M🇿🇦☦️ @M24onRSA]

LMAOOOOO, the ANC actually has to die.
It's a non-negotiable.

[Hlovo @hlovo_]

“I cook for my husband”= You’re a slave

“We split the bills”= Your husband is useless

“I spoil my wife”= You’re a simp

“I dress modestly”= You’re in an abusive marriage

“My wife and I make decisions together”= You’re not a real man

“I can’t do random nights out because I’m married” = You’re husband/wife is controlling

“My wife earns more than me”= You’re a useless leech

“My husband is the breadwinner”= You have no say since you bring nothing to the table

“I don’t need a male/female bestie because I’m married”= Your partner is insecure

This is how some of you see the world 😂

Y’all are far too pathetic and miserable to really understand what goes into making a marriage successful. Happy couples should keep it to themselves because you guys will find a fault in everything they do.