@Queen_9_0 I've never been to a fast food place and not tidied up my table afterwards. It's never occurred to me not to clean up after we've finished eating.
@criminographer My heart breaks for you and for all the other parents who are a part of the club nobody wants to be a part of. No Mum should bury a child, or children, that's not how it's supposed to work ๐
Suicide.
I'm choosing to be deliberately blunt and provocative in this post because it's necessary. Government, charities, football clubs are all pushing water up a hill in highlighting what is undoubtedly a major health crisis.
You take a rope.
You put it up in a garage or a tree nearby or far away.
You're thinking about every loved one you'll leave behind as you put that rope around your neck.
Then you drop.
Some are decapitated.
Some aren't.
All are found by someone who has a lifetime of trauma that will never leave them.
A son.
A daughter.
A brother.
A sister.
A mother.
A father.
I know 2 men who hung themselves.
One was found by his Mom.
One was found by his brother.
Neither have recovered fully. 20 and 30 years on.
A life sentence for people who were already worrying, terrified their loved one may do something.
So just visualise the above and ask, "is there another way"?
A segway for a moment.
I do a few Q&A's every year. Tales of yesterday with a 99% male audience of my age group.
After the stories and fun, my last question back to the audience is..
"Hands up if you struggle with a mental health issue".
Nobody ever puts a hand up. Despite 1 in every 3 of 500 attendees statistically struggling.
"Ah, nobody, that's fucking brilliant! Well I do! ". I then graphically tell people, stunned into silence about how a rope around my neck in the middle of nowhere jolted me to go home and cry like a baby to my Mom.
After the Q&A has finished, something always happens. I'll be chatting to a few guys, saying bye and one by one, men will come over and whisper " I struggle".
Or my mailbox the next day will have 30 emails from guys, their partners or kids saying " Dad/Uncle /Brother was there last night and what you said hit them hard".
And that's how some people realise that it's time to speak to a pal or family member or even rant to me in an email. It works, I often get a follow up email a year or 6 later saying that they took responsibility for their suicidal feelings and are now flying.
Humans are programmed to want to live, to have families and to keep the species growing and thriving. So for a human to want to short circuit that desire isn't normal, and it should never be spoken of as normal. It's the ultimate red flag.
If you suspect your mate, Dad, Brother, Uncle is struggling mentally, they deserve your intervention.
They deserve a " are you OK, please tell me what's up".
They deserve an opportunity to get past wanting to hang a rope over a tree or in a garage and slowly struggle until they die and you find them.
If you've been there and trust me I have plenty, then you'll know that text out of the blue, or a footie mate or one of your kids asking jow you are can open the curtains to some sunshine.
Because when suicide is your only answer, the room is already dark, and you can't see a way out.
So please, fucking pretty please, ask that husband, Dad, Uncle, Cousin, footie pal TODAY how they are.
You may be shocked what comes back but extremely glad that you asked.
For those who struggle, you're not alone.
@GillSherratt23@Stephen63224725 I had no knowledge of Harvey until this popped up on my feed but I want to send my condolences. No parent should have to bury their child. I'm so sorry ๐ Rest easy, Harvey ๐ค
@alexeades1 I'm so sorry for your loss. I love the idea of Charlotte's Lab. If just one family is spared the heartbreak you endured, what a lasting legacy for one so young and beautiful โค๏ธ
@deepexperience1 I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful, brave Evanne. I hope that in time the memories you made will see you through the dark days ahead. โค๏ธ
@Shropygirl@GBNEWS That'll never happen because they're all shady AF! Claiming expenses for second and third properties whilst there are people who are worried about losing their house, elderly not using their utilities to try and make ends meet. Shameful.
The killer of all my children & my dad got full parole 4 yrs ago today.
In less then 6 months, his warrant will expire.
In 7 months and 3 days, all of my children will come home to me, right?
My multiple life sentences for crimes I didn't commit will end this year ..right?