It's selfish to enter someone's life, see that they're a loving, cheerful, and good person, and decide to ruin their present because you haven't dealt with your own issues. Leave people alone if you have no intention of showing up with sincerity.
I just came to the realization that I should just do everything alone 😭 movie dates,trips,dinner etc. I be so fixated on wanting to do things with others I slow myself down and never end up doing things and wasting my time, energy & money.