“There’s no South African who goes around chasing Nigerians because they are Nigerians, it doesn’t exist. This Nigerians have been chased around because they are criminal Nigerians, not not innocent Nigerians.” - President Thabo Mbeki 🇿🇦
tolerating always turns into resentment. at first, you call it patience, then love. but what it really is, is self abandonment. every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. eventually, the bill comes due.
I sit quietly and realize that God has been taking care of me this whole time. Maybe not in luxurious ways. Maybe not an easy life. But through protection,provision, good health, surviving hard days and always having just enough to keep going.
Lord, pleaseeeeeeee don’t send me another man who doesn’t know how to communicate, is emotionally unavailable, unhealed, not over his ex, nonchalant, entertaining multiple women, mean-spirited, lacks compassion, inconsistent, immature, allergic to accountability, afraid of commitment, full of excuses, emotionally unstable, dishonest, manipulative, selfish, prideful, lazy, lacking vision, lacking discipline, still playing games at his grown age, wanting wife benefits on a boyfriend budget, and calling himself “ready” when he’s clearly not.
And while we’re at it, don’t send me a man who thinks being interested is the same thing as being intentional.
Lord, send me a man who is healed, whole, emotionally mature, consistent, honest, kind, self-aware, and ready for the kind of love he’s praying for.❤️