Joanna

Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life, and you will call it fate.
#GenX Harmless unless threatened #FAFO

[Joanna @MsWired]

@kellytheboss7 3-5 business days? It won't get done until it becomes an emergency - unless it gets swept along later by an unrelated productivity train 😭

[Joanna @MsWired]

@paul_greet Unbelievable 🤬

[Joanna @MsWired]

@paul_greet @AnneHatfieldVO @ColdhandsLiz Worse. They have a duty to protect people!

[Joanna @MsWired]

@thinkdeepdeeper @upshine3 Yes

[Joanna @MsWired]

@LinkAttano @Be_like_legend Yes

[Joanna @MsWired]

@mycariads @Be_like_legend Unfortunately

[Joanna @MsWired]

@Be_like_legend 18. Sometimes if I'm trying to wake up my brain and stay grounded in the present.
19. Rarely
20. Oh yeah 😭

[Joanna @MsWired]

@Be_like_legend 13. No. It means being extra productive because I need to do ALL THE THINGS before the event. Might decide to paint the kitchen or something.
14. Interest or fear of consequences
15. Yes
16. I don't like this term. Everyone "masks" sometimes for social reasons.
17. Yes

[Joanna @MsWired]

@Be_like_legend 8. Yeah mostly
9. Absolutely
10. Only if I'm already stressed out
11. Sometimes. Might tune out and go numb or might overreact.
12. Sometimes

[Joanna @MsWired]

@Be_like_legend 3. Yes but only with certain people.
4. 💯
5. 💯
6. 💯
7. 💯 but I can't put them away because then I'll forget forever

[Joanna @MsWired]

@Be_like_legend 1. Sometimes, but only if the person is supportive and encouraging.
2. I can plan like a boss, but actually DOING the things at the planned time is probably not happening - unless it involves a fire or someone else's disappointment (which burns like a fire).

[Kush @kush_147]

Good people have high levels of empathy, but once that empathy is exhausted, they switch to a state of objective observation. They see you for exactly who you are, without the filter of their love. This is why their anger feels so cold, it is the absence of the warmth you took for granted

[Joanna @MsWired]

Sometimes you have to do the things even if you don't feel like it. It is called being a functional adult.

[Anish Moonka @anishmoonka]

A young Harvard medical school graduate spent nearly three years stuck in his parents' house, having panic attacks and hallucinations. One evening at twilight, walking into a dressing room, he was hit by what he later called "a horrible fear of my own existence." His name was William James. The diary entry he wrote on April 30, 1870 became the foundation of modern psychology.

The line was this: "My first act of free will shall be to believe in free will." He was 28. He'd given up. So he made one decision: stop waiting to feel okay before doing things. He would do them first, and let the feelings catch up whenever they could.

He spent the next twenty years turning that one diary line into a science. His 1890 textbook landed on a simple split: the things you do are under your direct control, but the things you feel are not. You can decide to swing your legs out of bed and walk to the kitchen. The mood that hits you while you're walking, you can't dial. So you work the part you can work. The feeling side shows up on its own clock, when it's ready and not before.

Brain scanners caught up about a century later. There's a network in your head that switches on the moment you stop paying attention to anything specific. It's the voice that drags you back to something dumb you said in 2014. In depressed brains, this network is overactive. It runs in loops. It will not let go of the negative track about you. The second you start doing something that actually needs your attention, the loop quiets and a different network takes over. Action is the off switch.

In 2016, The Lancet published a trial called COBRA. Researchers took 440 adults with depression and split them in half. One group got CBT, the gold-standard talking therapy where you work on your thinking patterns. The other group got something simpler, basically James's idea written into a treatment plan: pick small activities each week, schedule them, do them, see what happens to your mood. A year later, both groups had improved by the same amount. The simpler version also cost about 20% less to deliver, because junior workers can run it. Five days of training is enough.

In 2024, a research team pulled 218 studies together, covering 14,170 depressed people. Walking and jogging produced a real drop in depression scores. Yoga, same drop. Weights, same drop. The authors' verdict: exercise belongs alongside therapy and medication as one of the main treatments for depression.

So that's the answer William James worked out from his own three years in hell in 1870, and that 14,000+ people in clinical trials have confirmed since. Action. Walk somewhere. Pick something heavy up and put it down. Show up at yoga. Schedule one small task and finish it. Any of these works, and they work for the same reason. You move, and the feeling follows.

[Joanna @MsWired]

@paul_greet @AnneHatfieldVO @ColdhandsLiz Unbelievable!

[Joanna @MsWired]

@melankolyme I never would have believed it for myself, but yes it is possible! ❤️

[Joanna @MsWired]

Find someone who never falters.
Who lets you know every single day how much you mean to them.
Who believes in you even when you don't believe in yourself.
Who encourages the best in you instead of pointing out your flaws.
Who makes you feel beautiful even when you can't see it

[Echo 🔆 @TheEcho13]

I never dated a man, or even spend a significant amount of time talking to a man, who didn’t want to marry me.

If he doesn’t want to marry you, he doesn’t like you. Men who want you want to make sure they get to keep you.

If he’s not treating you like you’re his dream girl, like you’re the one he can’t lose, it’s because you’re not. Don’t stick around to find out what happens next.

[Joanna @MsWired]

The worst relationships are the ones that are wonderful one half of the time.
~ Dr. K

[Echo 🔆 @TheEcho13]

The reason men feel “blindsided” is because they only listened when they were losing access.

A woman can tell him the truth gently for a year and it’ll be called “nagging.” Then she goes quiet and he suddenly wants a conversation. That wasn’t a communication problem. That was a man treating her wants and needs like background noise until it became a decision.