Ra'idah Ahmad

Mrs❤️💍

[ConstructionPM🪖 ✨ @HabeebOmosidi]

Let me break it down clearly for you.

From the 1st trimester, a woman’s body and emotions begin to change. Hormones fluctuate, discomfort increases, the emotions and all fly around, up through the 2nd and 3rd trimesters.

As the final weeks approach, anxiety sets in, fear of labour, fear of complications, whether it’ll come in the 40 weeks or not, the preparations, fear of whether it will be a natural birth or a CS, fear of survival, for herself and the baby. The pain is even unimaginable for. Some women experience severe tears, trauma, and maybe lasting physical effects.

Then comes childbirth itself, followed by postpartum challenges, depression, sleepless nights, physical pain, the demands of breastfeeding, and emotional vulnerability.

At this point, the husband is meant to be her partner, her strength, her emotional support. Even when some men do their best, it is often still not enough, which is why extended family support is sometimes needed.

So how, in the middle of all this, does a man conclude that this is the best time to take another wife?

I genuinely struggle to comprehend it.

You watch someone you claim to love endure physical pain, emotional exhaustion, and all others and your response is to marry another woman at that very moment?

HOW???

[Aisha Bello™ 🔻🇦🇷 @Iamindo0]

Imagine given birth for the first time, going through sh*t especially with twins and your husband got married in the same week.

Hausa men don’t have empathy or emotional intelligence, su dai kawai ganin mata suke haka gasu nan

[👳🏾‍♂️Mufti Of Ilorin Online 👳🏾‍♂️ @Adamthallith]

The level of heartlessness and lack of consideration that some Muslim men hide behind polygyny is honestly frightening and it’s becoming a thing on MUSLIM TWITTER now.

There is no way to narrate or justify it: a considerate, emotionally intelligent, and loving husband would not marry a second wife just weeks after his first wife has given birth to their first kids. That period is one of the most physically, emotionally, and psychologically vulnerable moments in any woman’s life. Ignoring that reality is not being a man, it’s not upholding sunnah— it is cruelty dressed up as religion.

And please don’t argue that the second marriage was planned before the first wife gave birth. We live in an age of medical care and technology that accurately predicts expected delivery dates. He knew when his first wife would give birth. He knew what was coming. Patience was possible, consideration was needed.

A man who truly understands responsibility would prioritise presence, support, and co-parenting during that critical phase. He would be there — helping his first wife heal, bond with their child, and adjust to a completely new chapter of life, both of them need to enjoy the parenting phase together, another wife isn’t as important that moment than him being a present father physically, he has experienced being a husband before, he hasn’t enjoy being a father. He was not supposed to rush into another marriage while his first wife is still bleeding, exhausted, and emotionally raw.

Polygyny in Islam comes with conditions of justice, mercy, and emotional responsibility. When those are missing, what remains is not Sunnah — it is selfishness.

Not everything permitted is wise.
Not everything lawful is loving.

Muslim men, ẹ bẹru ọlọhun, ẹ ye fi sunnah anabi justify wickedness yin.

Salamun Alykhun Wa Rahmatullah.

[Mama Karime @Karimatushema]

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[Ra'idah Ahmad @MssRaidah]

Please please please😂

[Farouq Dangida @farksy]

This ship is sailing oo 😂 @MssRaidah

[Tea Vendor ☕ 🍵 😄 @Phar_eexah]

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[babygirl ッ @Aminah_Rimi]

Eid Mubarak. May Allah forgive us and our parents and bless us with ease in life

[Ra'idah Ahmad @MssRaidah]

Your head is not correct😂😂

[babygirl ッ @Aminah_Rimi]

@MssRaidah Yakamata harda mu 😭😭😂😂

[Ra'idah Ahmad @MssRaidah]

Amina????😭🤣🤣

[babygirl ッ @Aminah_Rimi]

@21_08x Ku kadai ne ko harda mu? 😂😂

[Baffa @Mal_Baffa]

Is there anything as heart warming as the sight of a sleeping child smile?
Makes you want to lay the rest of your useful life down for them.

[Ra'idah Ahmad @MssRaidah]

Wai in advance😂

[Abdulkadir Hamza @UncleKaque]

@MssRaidah Thank me idan na karbo dai 😂

[Ra'idah Ahmad @MssRaidah]

Ameen ya rabbi
Thank you.

[Abdulkadir Hamza @UncleKaque]

@MssRaidah Alright then. Allah ya kaimu

[Ra'idah Ahmad @MssRaidah]

From…

[Abdulkadir Hamza @UncleKaque]

@MssRaidah From or to?

[Ra'idah Ahmad @MssRaidah]

Ina da saqo🚶‍♀️

[Abdulkadir Hamza @UncleKaque]

Na to enter kd sure pass

[Muhammad. @baphacongo]

the downside of being emotionally intelligent is that you’re willing to understand things from everyone’s perspective, but people are just rarely capable of giving that same type of understanding towards you.

[Sadiq G sadiq @sadiqGsadiq]

It was my cousin’s wedding today, we finished everything and I accompanied her to the car, she was hysterically crying, I suddenly became emotional.

Women are honestly trying; I can’t imagine being taken to another state, where I don’t know anyone, in the name of marriage.

[feyisayo 💸 @feyiszn]

I don’t care what anybody says but Silent treatment and ghosting is a form of abuse and it damages people.

[Ra'idah Ahmad @MssRaidah]

😞😣🥴

[Magaji Duwan @Amahmdwk]

Assalamu Alaikum. I am delighted to invite you to my Wedding Fatiha and this serves as a formal invitation, your presence will be appreciated and if you are unable to attend your prayers are indeed needed. Jazakallahu khair.