Natalia Bower

Conservative writer on current social issues, philosophy PhD researcher, mother

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

@PoppTerrence Did you all forget that more women have died in childbirth than men have died fighting in wars?

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

@MurrayHillGuy1 6’3” is not ugly. The fact that he doesn’t know how to pic good pictures is appealing to women. Means he is not cunning. Sign of not being a player on online dating.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

@wesyang But weirdly it’s the lower earning women that take the hit. The higher earning women scoop up the higher earning men.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

When I was 27, a guy in college lied to me and said he was my age. He drove from his college campus several hours away in another state to go on dates with me. This went on for several weeks before I found out. A guy on a coed campus that had more women than men at the university did this.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

I do not do a single thing when my kids are newborns. My mom lives 8 min away and I can afford house cleaner and nanny. I do not cook, clean or take care of my other kids that much when I have a newborn. All I do is feed, burp, change, clean the baby, maybe file nails sometimes. Change linens for baby. Newborn time is newborn time only over here.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

@thegenesisbl0ck When I co slept and breastfed I was about as well slept as ever in my life during the newborn phase.

[Nadia @thegenesisbl0ck]

Some underlying biological factors are also relevant to the discussion. Breastfeeding moms typically handle more frequent night wakings (especially in the early months), yet they still get more deep sleep than non-postpartum women, presumably more than dads would.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

@TheGoodTwee7s @ReubenR80027912 It’s a song lyric

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

Rare? How? All of my kids get up at night from time to time. I always only deal with the baby and my husband deals with eveyone else at night. I did 100% of night feedings. Breastfed my kids for 18 months each. But after about 2.5 years, if they get up, they go to dad. He ended up getting up a lot too in the end.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

@LinettePaille Birthrates go down whenever child labor is not valuable. That’s when men don’t want kids very much anymore.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

If men were actually providing safety, that would significantly tilt things more in their favor relative to where they are now.

The problem is that men don’t provide any safety. These are facts. A woman is statistically much safer being unpartnered because by far the most likely person to physically harm her is her significant other.

Police keep the streets safe. They are mostly men, true, but they get paid well relative to their education level and they get good benefits. They deserve that and more. And they are effectively doing all the protection. The other men don’t do anything personally except pay taxes that support the police and women do that too.

Men are always out here fantasizing that they are protectors. They think about the burglar they are going to defend against, or the guy who aggressively cat calls his girl on the streets but he does nothing. The chances that a man is going to have to physically defend his woman is vanishingly rare outside the ghetto in America.

If men were out there necessarily beating up bad guys to protect their womenfolk every other year or so, their sexual market value to women would increase tremendously.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

Do you not have children? Do you think they are like adults and you can wear your jeans 6 times before washing them? Little kids soil their clothes multiple times a day. You have to change them like 2-3x a day and keep washing their clothing. Also they want their same green jacket every day or else they cry so you have to wash it all the time, even when you buy several of the same one.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

Are you retarded? I used to spend 15 minutes a week cleaning my apartment in nyc. Do you have any concept of how many dishes and how much laundry multiple children generate? And how much mess they make and crumbs they leave on the floor. You have to sweep and vacuum multiple times per day.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

If men were actually providing safety, that would significantly tilt things more in their favor relative to where they are now.

The problem is that men don’t provide any safety. These are facts. A woman is statistically much safer being unpartnered because by far the most likely person to physically harm her is her significant other.

Police keep the streets safe. They are mostly men, true, but they get paid well relative to their education level and they get good benefits. They deserve that and more. And they are effectively doing all the protection. The other men don’t do anything personally except pay taxes that support the police and women do that too.

Men are always out here fantasizing that they are protectors. They think about the burglar they are going to defend against, or the guy who aggressively cat calls his girl on the streets but he does nothing. The chances that a man is going to have to physically defend his woman is vanishingly rare outside the ghetto in America.

If men were out there necessarily beating up bad guys to protect their womenfolk every other year or so, their sexual market value to women would increase tremendously.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

More children does not make things easier. Older children can’t occupy each other unattended until they are both over 5. Older children can’t help watch younger children for more than 2 minutes until they are like 9.

It’s a complete pain to have to put a baby down to nap while you have other children who don’t nap at the same time (and they don’t). And on top of this you have to do dishes and laundry and make food while watching the kids.

It’s so much harder than the excel job I have. It’s much harder than the time I worked at a warehouse doing manual labor too.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

@JohnMil15040440 @ReubenR80027912 In about 10-20 years we are also going to see a bunch of 5’8” American born men of Indian descent with trust funds and working in finance too.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

My husband is a quant at a hedge fund and he’s so weird in that math PhD way, but he’s conventionally handsome and 6’3”. Brown eyed but his dad and brother are blue eyed. Antithesis of trust funder because he’s a GenX Slav, so he grew up when all their communist dictatorships were falling apart and it was dirt poor back then. I send my kids to private school in the old money town, and I see some blue eyed guys who are 4th generation Deerfield to Harvard types (not kidding when I make that plural). They are cool dads but not my type personally. I like my math weirdo. I’m a weirdo too. It wouldn’t work between me and finance trust fund type. So not everyone wants them once you see it in the flesh.

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

High finance is a lot of Jews and Asians these days, but wealth management guys can make a lot and they are chock full of the trust fund blue eyed former jocks in my neck of the woods. And out here the clientele is UHNW enough that these guys can do pretty well as private wealth managers.

[Murray Hill Guy @MurrayHillGuy1]

Ran possibly my most brutal dating app experiment yet:

Normal 5’9 guy vs. an extremely unattractive woman.

Results were here all tracked…

Guy: 12 likes, 3 matches, 0 date offers.

Woman: 1,206 likes, 342 matches, 28 date offers.

100x more likes. 114x more matches.

I knew it would be bad.

I did not think it would be THIS bad.

It’s cooked

[Natalia Bower @NataliaBower100]

@ReubenR80027912 6 ft is not 6’5”. Yeah if you make it 6 ft, this is a certain kind of demographic. I live near an old money town where that is not terribly abnormal.