One thing nobody tells you about adulthood is how fun it is to become your own person. One day you randomly start liking jazz, olive green, expensive dark chocolate, documentaries about volcanoes, weird lamps, sparkling water, books about loneliness in Tokyo, silver jewelry and quiet cafés. Your personality keeps unfolding forever if you let it.
it's insane how when you relax and let go and allow yourself to be feminine, life just gets so much juicier, you find yourself spontaneously dancing, life flows, what isn't for you just misses you, and what is for you lands perfectly in your lap...
if you know you’re not able to meet me where I’m at emotionally. and you know this information early on when interacting with me - please do us both a favour and leave me alone. do not come to me and advertise yourself in a way you cannot sustain.
Take a day and write down exactly what you want for the next month, 3 months, 6 months, year and then 3 years. Financially, relationally, health wise, career wise, etc.
Then research and figure out what needs to be done over the next month, 3 months, 6 months etc to get there.