NotTheEasyWay

A psychology service that aims to create systems in schools & businesses to help all to face life’s challenges courageously & build a life worth living.

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

Not The Easy Way Psychology Service

We've launched! Check out our programmes for young people, schools & businesses on our new website

We want to:
help people to face life's challenges courageously & live in line with their values
address concerns affecting childhood & society

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

We're offering to host free Speak Space events at any UK university in honour of #CharlieKirk's commitment to the free exchange of ideas.

Please get in touch or share if you know of a uni group that would host

Speak Space builds understanding, tolerance, & our common humanity.

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

@SpeechUnion @_ConnieShaw https://t.co/oGdIBqjo8I

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

We're offering to host free Speak Space events at any UK university in honour of #CharlieKirk's commitment to the free exchange of ideas.

Please get in touch or share if you know of a uni group that would host

Speak Space builds understanding, tolerance, & our common humanity.

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

@toadmeister @DailyMail https://t.co/oGdIBqjo8I

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

We're offering to host free Speak Space events at any UK university in honour of #CharlieKirk's commitment to the free exchange of ideas.

Please get in touch or share if you know of a uni group that would host

Speak Space builds understanding, tolerance, & our common humanity.

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

@toadmeister https://t.co/oGdIBqjo8I

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

We're offering to host free Speak Space events at any UK university in honour of #CharlieKirk's commitment to the free exchange of ideas.

Please get in touch or share if you know of a uni group that would host

Speak Space builds understanding, tolerance, & our common humanity.

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

We developed a 'Speak Charter' for young people.

To support them to have conversations which aim to deepen understanding of each other's viewpoints.

These are skills they need to develop.

It's ok to disagree.

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

We developed Speak Space to support young people to engage in conversations with people they disagree with.

We're offering to facilitate Speak Spaces for free at any UK Uni in memory of Charlie Kirk.

Get in touch if you know any Uni groups who'd host
@TPointUK
@SpeechUnion

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

Conversations with differing viewpoints help people figure out:

who they are
what they think
what they feel is important
how to manage challenging emotions
& interact well with others

This is what Charlie Kirk did.

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

Teenagers have been led to believe what they need is to feel comfortable all the time.

If they believe this then any discomfort becomes unbearable.

A more inspiring belief is: I can do hard things.

That's why we're: Not The Easy Way

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

@StandUptoWoke @calvinrobinson @NewCultureForum @Glinner @Docstockk @RobertJenrick Please help us by retweeting the first tweet

We are psychologists offering to host free Speak Spaces at any UK university in honour of #CharlieKirk's commitment to the free exchange of ideas.

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[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

We're offering to host free Speak Space events at any UK university in honour of #CharlieKirk's commitment to the free exchange of ideas.

Please get in touch or share if you know of a uni group that would host

Speak Space builds understanding, tolerance, & our common humanity.

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

Please help us by retweeting the first tweet

We are psychologists offering to host free Speak Spaces at any UK university in honour of #CharlieKirk's commitment to the free exchange of ideas.

@StandUptoWoke @calvinrobinson @NewCultureForum @Glinner @Docstockk @RobertJenrick

[Dr Peter D’Lima @peterdlimaedpsy]

If you disagree with someone, ask questions.
If you get a response, listen.
If views make you uncomfortable, ask yourself why.
If you start name-calling, take a breath.

Don't intimidate. Don't kill. Don't celebrate their death.

A good man was killed because of bigotry. RIP.

[Ben Obese-Jecty MP @BenObeseJecty]

Adolescence misses the mark.

An unpopular opinion perhaps, but nonetheless the importance that politicians and broadcasters are placing on this fictional drama is, I believe, misplaced.

Yes, its one-shot structure is brilliantly directed by Phillip Barantini and Stephen Graham is, as ever, a tour de force. But whilst this is a very good depiction of a family’s grief and bewilderment at how their child has become capable of such a callous and evil act, it never explains HOW Jamie has been driven to kill or WHY he sees it as a rational act.

It is briefly talked about that this is a killing driven by being mocked online by the girl who becomes his victim, but that thread is left hanging. Though hinted at it never pushes as to what the influences have been to drive him there.

For Keir Starmer to suggest Adolescence must be shown in all schools is a hopeless piece of political virtue-signalling, desperate to ride the coat-tails of popular opinion, illustrating that he doesn’t really want to understand the nature of the problem; What will teenagers get from watching it?

The majority of boys who carry a knife do so because they believe others do, not because they are misogynist incels. The fear is of being stabbed themselves, not because they intend to attack teenage girls. There is a reason why boys make up the majority of victims, and why black boys are over represented in those statistics.

Two weeks ago I led a debate in Parliament about ‘Knife crime amongst children and young people’. Perhaps if the Prime Minister felt the topic was truly important he might have made time for it to be discussed rather than the issue being forced by myself as an opposition backbencher.

Until we are prepared to frankly and robustly address why our children are carrying knives, and more still why so many have become prepared to kill, we simply will not stop this senseless loss of life.

[William Costello @CostelloWilliam]

@Keir_Starmer With respect Prime Minister, policy should be informed by sober research, not highly emotive performance art, no matter how powerful the acting is.

Here’s some incel research we conducted with support from @CommissionCE and presented to the @CommonsWEC.

https://t.co/YeYN61Yup0

[William Costello @CostelloWilliam]

In what sense is Adolescence a "bit too real"?

There simply has not been an epidemic of manosphere inspired violence like depicted in the show (unlike something like Drill music, for example).

Jamie is neither typical of knife crime in the UK, nor indeed fans of the manosphere (who are disproportionately ethnic minority also).

The show depicts a somewhat plausible narrative of how a tragedy like this might unfold. But, to be clear, it would be a total outlier tragedy if it did.

When I say plausible I mean that instead of depicting a cold blooded psychopathic young man, the show depicts the following...

1. A normal enough young boy who is insecure about presenting himself as sexually successful. This pressure is likely exacerbated by the manosphere content he consumes.

2. Jamie has his masculinity challenged online by being bullied about being incel. Public humiliation (made worse by social media) is a plausible trigger for young male violence.

3. Finds a knife in his possession.

4. Seeks to confront his bully (after trying to romantically pursue her when he thought she was "weak") and things got out of hand.

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

The knee-jerk reaction to a fictional series is the antithesis of our Magnificent Boys Project

Demonise
Assume negative intent
Elevate negative role models
Tell boys what to think

vs

Encourage strength
See positive potential
Elevate positive role models
Explore views

[Good Morning Britain @GMB]

Netflix's hit show Adolescence is to be shown in secondary schools, the government has confirmed.

But will airing the hit series in schools go any way to tackling misogyny and violence in boys and young men?

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

@miriam_cates We've moved from violence can harm you.
To my words can harm you.
To my thoughts about you can harm you.

Yes this is dystopian, but not in way @stellacreasy suggests.

It's also an idea which is destroying children's mental health.

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

@Fox_Claire @JDVance @acadofideas Freedom of speech is not explicitly stated as a 'British Value' in schools.

If you only promote vague notions of tolerance and respect without the counterbalance of free speech, you end up teaching children to quietly tolerate anything.

[NotTheEasyWay @NotTheEasyWay1]

@glukianoff Freedom of speech is not explicitly stated as a 'British Value' in schools.

If you only promote vague notions of tolerance and respect without the counterbalance of free speech, you end up teaching children to quietly tolerate anything.