Not Prude

M41 married to a wonderful woman. Christian, not a prude. Sharing chastity, anal play, nudism, and more, because I enjoy it and you can too. (NSFW 18+)

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Why this account?

I'm in my 40s and I've been married for almost 20 years. This account is anonymous and personal, and it's not monetized. Since this is my intro, here's why I post at all.

Sex in marriage is enjoyable. Recreational, even. We treat almost every other hobby like something you can talk about with friends: what you tried, what you liked, what flopped, what gear actually works.

With sex, a lot of conversations only get as far as "are you having it?" Then it stops. We don't share toys or experiences in detail, or pictures or videos, like we do with other hobbies. Nobody has to overshare. But acting like the details are always off-limits leaves people figuring it out alone, or from the internet.

So I'm sharing it here. All of it. (Very NSFW)

My thought with sharing this kind of content is the intent. I'm not sharing it to make money or to try to get somebody aroused. I'm not ignorant to the fact that it could, but that's not why I share it.

I'm sharing based on excitement: look at this fun thing I did. Or: I like doing this, and it's okay to like it. Or: this is what I do to enjoy this thing. I have fun, and I want others to feel comfortable having fun as well, especially if it's something that seems taboo.

If you share this kind of thing too, what's your reason?

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@NuEtHeureux That moment the body relaxes is the whole point. I love it when you no longer see skin, just a person or people.
I'm can't wait to visit a few more local nudist spots, though it'll have to be after Locktober, since I know most aren't fond of stuff like cages.

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@NaughtyBoy88 Nice! enjoy!

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@NaughtyBoy88 Yes. I wish I'd known about plugs earlier.

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@heavyhonkers Some of us do wear them. My favorite pair has scrunch in the back. I can't stand the uni-butt.

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@drysodaa Speaking as a Christian husband: most guys aren't asking for prude. Honest and playful wins.

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@OceanShaffiers Leggings are super comfortable. I wear them to the gym (without shorts over them) and have occasionally worn them outside they gym and plan on doing it more this fall/winter. Just get a pair a try them out.

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@lightbreedd Christian, married 17+ years. Church gave a lot of rules before marriage and nothing useful after, so couples are left to figure it out alone. It's supposed to be enjoyable, and talking openly is how we can figure it out.

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@CricketBoxUK Congrats on the new record. For me the first week is the hardest, mornings especially, and after that it usually settles down and caged just feels like my normal day. Day 12 here, and I'm hoping to beat that this year.

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@Vaxtastix Nice! I'm shooting to stay locked until the end of the year. Only my wife's needs or waxing appointment will get me out of the cage.

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Locktober 2026, Day 12

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Thong season's almost over here. The first pic is me tanning last summer in a thong. This year I switched to a pouch, even less fabric. The second pic is from this month, and there's no tan line. I started wearing thongs in high school, over 20 years ago, but back then I'd never have posted it. Not worried about it anymore.

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@VelvetKeepers I always wonder too how many other guys I know might be caged, but never know.

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@lockthecock_ Day 11 and I agree. After wearing it for a while I feel naked without it.

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If you’ve thought about trying anal, this is a great starter guide that can help you enjoy it and not end up regretting it.

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@IntimacyLabX Good practical notes. Going slow, using enough lube, and actually talking through it with your partner is what makes anal play work for me. Rushing usually doesn’t end well.

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@nudeandfree95 Laundry while nude just makes sense. It’s the only way to can make sure all your clothes are clean.

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@TheIfyPen_TIP Yes. Treating honest talk like it is off limits is how a lot of married people stay stuck. Plain conversation is how things actually get better. We talk very openly about other interests and hobbies. Why not sex?

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@ClosetedChaste Ha, that is a different level of challenge. Solo parenting and Locktober together is a lot. Hope today was easier!

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Video on Reddit:

https://t.co/RGwf64NiJ3

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I told my wife about my butt stuff while we were engaged...
I've been into anal play for several years before I met my wife. Growing up, anything like this felt completely off-limits, so even thinking about saying it out loud was a lot.
When I told her, after we were married, she was willing to try things with me. She's pegged me with a strap-on and even fisted me a couple times, but she didn't really enjoy it. So now she lets me play solo, and that works for us.
My favorite toy (pictured) was one I got in 2023. It felt amazing (2.67" diameter), but she didn't like the phallic shape, so I got rid of it and switched to a gray monster-style one.

For me, the hardest part was getting the words out. If there's something you've been wanting to tell your spouse, it might be worth just saying it.