My life

Advocating for children and families to be heard in a criminal justice system that forgets them.

[My life @Nye_agbe]

The stigma attached to having a loved one in prison is often very overwhelming. It is a sad world where I have to protect my identity in fear of repercussions to my career for choices I have not directly made.

[My life @Nye_agbe]

In true prison style... there has been an echo of silence from staff in regards to an update about his D cat 🙄

[My life @Nye_agbe]

We find out on Tuesday if he's got his D cat. Last time they refused it because they decided he should do a course they are offering, which isn't part of his sentence plan. He's done the course anyway, is enhanced and has lots of good references 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[My life @Nye_agbe]

@LoopScotland Sending love to you and your family

[My life @Nye_agbe]

I can't believe he's been in prison for 3 years now. It feels like he was home yesterday but at the same time like our lives have changed drastically since he was here. We have memories together during the time apart, but they just look different to the norm.

[My life @Nye_agbe]

The time before that they refused him because he had pending immigration matters... even though foreign national prisoners are supposed to be considered for D cat 😒

[My life @Nye_agbe]

We find out on Tuesday if he's got his D cat. Last time they refused it because they decided he should do a course they are offering, which isn't part of his sentence plan. He's done the course anyway, is enhanced and has lots of good references 🙏🏾🙏🏾

[My life @Nye_agbe]

Still me. Still silenced in fear of stigma.

[My life @Nye_agbe]

I was in a large meeting yesterday at work and the criminal justice system kept coming up. I am more open with my partners imprisonment now but it wasn't appropriate to mention it during the conversations. In my head his name was on a loop 😫🤣

[My life @Nye_agbe]

You don't commit to your circumstances you commit to each other.

[My life @Nye_agbe]

I had a conversation with a woman yesterday who has written publicly about her partner's incarceration. I hugely admire her for this, especially the way that she links her professional career with her lived experiences. I truly hope that will be me one day ❤️

[My life @Nye_agbe]

I'm not sure who needs to hear this but... It's okay to tell your loved one in prison that you are too tired to speak on the phone. It's okay to have some time to yourself after a busy day. You don't need to stay on the phone. Your mental health matters too.

[My life @Nye_agbe]

@FamilyTiesHMP It was our first one and it was so good. A real taste of family life and what it will be like when he hopefully gets his D cat 🙏🏾

[My life @Nye_agbe]

We have our first family day today. This is a 3 hour visit and will be the longest we have spent with him since he was home in 2020. Nervous and excited!

[A @accccxxx]

IMO As prisoner’s LOs we have to be realistic and honest with ourselves/others. I see so many people minimising crimes 🤦🏻‍♀️. I agree no crime is clear cut, however our partners did commit a crime and by minimising it/giving excuses we are hindering their rehabilitation 🤷🏻‍♀️

[My life @Nye_agbe]

We had the most perfect visit yesterday with our daughter after her not seeing her dad for over 7 months. She didn't talk a lot but was smiling loads 🥺

[My life @Nye_agbe]

@CountRights Welcome. I'm only a DM away if you need anything ❤️

[My life @Nye_agbe]

The stigma attached to having a loved one in prison is often very overwhelming. It is a sad world where I have to protect my identity in fear of repercussions to my career for choices I have not directly made.

[My life @Nye_agbe]

Does anyone else just have a memory of their loved one and zone completely out? Detach from the world for a minute..

[My life @Nye_agbe]

@RastaMo55980826 I'm staying hopeful for now but we will see 🙏🏾

[My life @Nye_agbe]

I just received an email from my partners new establishment saying "residents book their own visits". This really warmed my heart. 1. Calling him a resident is so humanizing as opposed to prisoner! 2. He gets to take ownership of his visits ❤️

[My life @Nye_agbe]

@bootyfuldancer7 Oh sorry to hear that 😞. It's so stressful. You would think when a compassionate transfer is requested they would prioritize it!

[My life @Nye_agbe]

After fighting for and challenging a move since January ... He has finally been moved to our local prison! We couldn't be happier! Now our daughter can see him after over 7 months of separation ❤️🙌🏾🥹

[My life @Nye_agbe]

I miss him leaning over and kissing me on the cheek 🥺