@SumitM_X This is what actually happens:-
1. Message received by server
2. Stored once (source of truth)
3. Published to a message queue (Kafka / similar)
4. Workers process fan-out:
→ create per-user delivery entries
5. Push to online users via WebSocket
6. Store for offline users
@SimonovicDev@haha_girrrl Suppose a user already took a password abc123 and for other user you showed the message that this password is already taken 🤣
India’s arranged marriage checklist has 50 items. Health isn’t one of them.
Before shaadi:
He’s in the gym. Best shape of his life.
She’s eating clean. Best she’s ever looked.
After shaadi:
Month 1 - honeymoon weight. “Enjoy karo.”
Month 3 - gym cancelled. “Ghar sambhalna hai.”
Month 6 - dinner at 11 PM. Every night.
Year 1 - 8 kgs up. Neither says anything.
Year 2 - 15 kgs up. “Shaadi ke baad sab aise hote hain.”
Here’s what’s actually happening:
1.Your routines merged. And both collapsed. Before marriage you controlled your meals, your sleep, your gym time. Now everything is shared. Nobody’s routine survived. Both adjusted to the worst version of each other’s habits.
2. Social life doubled. Every weekend is someone’s house, someone’s dinner, someone’s function. You can’t say no because now you’re saying no as a couple. Double the obligations. Double the food. Double the pressure.
3. “Settle ho gaya” became the excuse for everything. Stopped training. Stopped eating well. Stopped caring. And both enabled each other because it’s easier to gain weight together than to stay accountable alone.
Start here:
1. Sit down and have one honest conversation. Not about diet. About how both of you are feeling in your bodies right now. That one conversation changes everything.
2. Pick one meal a day you both fix together. Not a diet. Just one meal where you both eat real food. The rest will follow.
3. Find 30 minutes that works for both of you. Walk after dinner. Gym on Saturday morning. Anything. Not separately. Together.
4. Stop enabling each other. “Aaj chhod de” is not love. Helping each other stay healthy is.
Settling down doesn’t have to mean giving up.