This platform, for me, is for discussions other than the one I am about write on - but the filth of this world has forced my hand, and I must speak!
A woman sat down today to speak about her work. She was not permitted to do so.
Meera, an actress who has spent her life inside the violent arithmetic by which our society judges women who make themselves visible, came to a podcast to discuss a film. The man across from her had other intentions. He did not ask about her craft, about the role she had laboured to inhabit, about the years of silence from which she had emerged. He asked about the men she had loved. He asked about the rumours that had circled her for decades like flies. He asked about money, about scandal, about old wounds he was pleased to pry open in front of an audience. When she stood to leave, he asked her, with the satisfaction of a man who believes he has earned the answer, which of the men in her past had hurt her more.
This is not an aberration. This is the logic of the situation made visible.
The public woman in our society occupies a peculiar and unbearable position. She has dared to appear, and by appearing she is understood, by the man, by the institution, by the crowd, to have relinquished the ordinary protections of privacy, interiority, selfhood. She becomes, in this interview and in a thousand others, the pure object: body to be looked at, history to be excavated, wound to be probed. Her work is incidental. Her person is raw material.
What is demanded of her, in exchange for the permission to be seen, is that she answer. Endlessly. Submissively. With a smile where possible. The question itself is the instrument of her subjugation, not because any single question is unbearable, but because the structure of the interrogation presumes that her life is owed. That she has no ground on which to refuse. That the only virtuous woman is the transparent one.
Meera refused.
She did not refuse with violence. She did not refuse with tears. She refused with the quietest act available to a human being: she withdrew her consent, stood, and left. In that gesture she performed something philosophically precise, she insisted on being a subject, not an object, in a room constructed to make her the latter. Whatever else one might say about her life or her choices, this act was the act of a free person. It should be taught.
And yet let us be unsparing. The interview is not a singular ugliness. It is the everyday condition rendered in high definition. The invasive question in the living room, the uncle who demands an account of your choices, the employer who believes your private life falls within his jurisdiction, the colleague whose smile arrives attached to an opinion you did not solicit, these are not separate phenomena. They share a single logic. The woman, in the eyes of the man shaped by this culture, is a creature who owes him access. Her boundary is read as provocation. Her silence as insult. Her refusal as an aberration to be corrected.
The shame that ought to attach to such behaviour has been transferred, by an ancient sleight of hand, to the woman who resists it.
I will not pretend any of this is being reformed from within. It is not. The men who authored the arrangement are not rewriting it. What is changing, and this is the one thing I can say without qualification, is that women are no longer waiting. They are leaving husbands who diminish them. They are declining marriages that were once obligatory. They are building lives, economic and emotional, that do not pivot on male approval. They are saying, in a thousand small and irreversible gestures, that they will not return to the old arrangement.
This is not the whole of liberation. Liberation is never a gift, never a decree, never a finished accomplishment. It is a practice, repeated daily, against a structure that reconstitutes itself the moment you turn away. The woman who refuses today will be met tomorrow by the same question in new clothes. The work, then, is to make refusal constant, to normalise it so thoroughly that no man of any rank, in any room, in any relationship, can ask the invasive question without meeting the resistance it deserves.
What Meera did should be ordinary. It should be the baseline. A woman should be able to say I will not answer, and have the room fall into a respectful silence, rather than require the cameras to catch her at her most composed before the world consents to believe she was wronged.
Until that is true, we must all learn to walk out.
I salute her.
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