tattooing, arting, surfing, seeing. story telling, music making, metaphorical gymnast, serial abbreviator, be kind, be cool.. nothing is what it seems.
@TonySeverinoCMT@__EthanHunt__ That’s what you’re doin innit? No offense… but… pick a timeframe and spin a yarn. All of u. Either way… you’ll all find out after the fact. Coz you’ve all got fuck all idea really. Maybe this. Maybe that. Blah blah blah.
⚡️Most people do not want what they say they want badly enough to pay for it.
They want the feeling of wanting it.
They want the identity of being ambitious.
They want to imagine the body, money, business, relationship, status, freedom.
That fantasy gives them a small dose of the reward without demanding the cost.
Behavior reveals the truth.
If someone says for five years that they want to get rich and spends every night consuming entertainment, they do not meaningfully want wealth. If someone says they want an exceptional body and repeatedly chooses comfort, comfort ranks higher. If someone says they want mastery and quits when repetition becomes boring, they wanted novelty and admiration.
Your calendar is the confession.
Your spending is the confession.
Your repeated behavior is the confession.
Everything else is testimony from an unreliable witness.
There is no mystical missing ingredient.
Reality does not care how sincerely you desire something. It responds to what you repeatedly do.
Most people spend their lives trying to keep two incompatible things alive at once: exceptional outcomes and ordinary levels of sacrifice.
Reality eventually kills one.
Trees don’t panic in the winter thinking, "Oh no, I’m not growing leaves, I’m a failure." They just rest and wait for spring. You are allowed to have a low-yield season without calling it a personal crisis.
An American gave me a plumber's number and said, "If he screws you, tell me."
I asked why I would tell him.
He said, "Because I sent you."
I did not understand that this was a bond. I thought it was a threat. I spent the entire plumbing appointment being extremely polite to the plumber in case he was being tested.
He was not being tested. I was not the examiner. Nobody was being examined.
I later learned that a recommendation here is a loan against your own reputation. If the plumber fails, it is the referrer's failure. This is why the recommendations are good. The system does not run on kindness. It runs on the fact that a bad referral costs the referrer more than it costs you.
So I tested it. I asked a different man for a roofer.
He went silent for eleven seconds.
Eleven seconds. I thought I had offended him. I began preparing an apology.
Then he said, "I got a guy but I don't know if he's still doing it. Let me check first."
He would not release the number until he verified it. He was protecting me and protecting himself and those had become the same thing.
Then I met a man who gave me nobody.
He said, "I don't have anybody good for that."
He knew names. He declined to spend his credit on a man he was not certain about.
That refusal was worth more than a hundred referrals and it cost him nothing and he will never know he impressed me.
I asked him later if he had any guys at all.
He said, "For that? No. For engines? Buddy."
Buddy.
He said the word buddy and leaned back like a man opening a vault.
Who is the last person you refused to recommend. I already know you have one and I already know why.
I needed to move a sofa.
I mentioned this to an American. He said, "You know anybody with a truck?"
I did not know anybody with a truck.
He looked at me with real concern. Not pity. Concern. The way you look at a man who has told you he does not have a name.
"You gotta know somebody with a truck."
I asked how one acquires such a person.
He said, "You just do."
This is the third time I have received that answer in this country. It is the answer to everything here. You just do. There is no process. There is only the eventual fact of having.
He said, "Ask Kevin."
I do not know a Kevin. He said Kevin like I should. He said it the way you say a shared uncle.
I met Kevin four days later. Kevin owns a truck. Kevin does not own a truck for himself. Nobody owns a truck for themselves. Kevin owns a truck for a fifteen mile radius.
Inside I said: THIS MAN HAS TAKEN A VOW. HE DID NOT ANNOUNCE IT. HE SIMPLY PURCHASED A BED AND ACCEPTED THE CONSEQUENCES.
Kevin arrived on Saturday. He brought the truck. He also brought a second man.
I had not asked for a second man.
The second man's name is Tony. Tony came because Kevin came. Tony did not know me. Tony did not ask what we were moving. Tony brought gloves.
They moved the sofa in eleven minutes.
I offered them money. Both of them laughed at the same time, which felt rehearsed and was not.
I asked what I owed them.
Kevin said, "Buy the pizza."
That is the price. That is the entire economy. The truck costs one pizza and the pizza is not negotiable and the pizza is also not expensive and everyone knows what size.
Inside I said: THE FEE IS FIXED ACROSS THE ENTIRE NATION AND WAS SET BY NO ONE.
We ate on the floor because the sofa was against the wall and none of us wanted to be the first to sit on it.
Tony told me his daughter plays soccer. I asked if she is good. He said, "She's aggressive."
I still think about that.
Three weeks later, Kevin texted me.
"You free Sunday? Helping Tony move a fridge."
He did not ask if I wanted to. He informed me of a fridge.
Inside I said: I HAVE BEEN CALLED UP. I DID NOT ENLIST. THE PAPERS WERE FILED ON MY BEHALF.
I went. I moved the fridge. I have no truck. I contributed only arms.
Afterward, a man I had never met asked me if I knew anybody with a truck.
I said, "Yeah, I got a guy."
I have a guy.
I am somebody's guy now, too. Tony has told two people about me.
He describes me as "the guy who's strong for his size."
I have never been prouder of a sentence in my life.