@NarcDecoder This happened to my daughter and it breaks my heart. She did not deserve what happened to her. I look forward to your book. I would like to learn more.
Your past lives in your memory.
Your future lives in your daily decisions.
One you cannot change.
One you control completely.
Yet most people spend all their energy on the frozen one.
And almost none on the one they actually own.
Viktor Frankl survived the Holocaust and wrote:
Everything can be taken from a person except the freedom to choose their response.
โข Replaying the past = energy spent on something frozen.
โข Shaping the future = energy spent on something alive.
โข Your next decision is more powerful than your entire history combined.
The past explains you.
It does not define you.
Only your next move does that.
@ryangerritsen Canada is in a bad place right now.
This isnโt about compassion.
Itโs about what happens when ending your life starts to feel more accessible than actually being helped.
Systems under pressure donโt protect the vulnerable.
We should be paying attention.
Steve Jobs gave a 15-minute speech at Stanford in 2005 that still changes lives today:
"Today I want to tell you three stories from my life. That's it. No big deal. Just three stories."
Story 1: Connecting the dots
"I dropped out of Reed College after the first 6 months. I couldn't see the value in it. I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life, and here I was spending all of the money my parents had saved their entire life. So I decided to drop out and trust that it would all work out. It was pretty scary at the time, but looking back, it was one of the best decisions I ever made."
Steve shares what happened next:
"Because I had dropped out, I decided to take a calligraphy class. I learned about serif and sans-serif typefaces, about varying the space between letter combinations, about what makes great typography great. None of this had even a hope of any practical application in my life. But ten years later, when we were designing the first Macintosh, it all came back to me. It was the first computer with beautiful typography."
He reflects:
"You can't connect the dots looking forward. You can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something: your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well-worn path."
Story 2: Love and loss
"At 30, I got fired from Apple, the company I started. What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone. It was devastating. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley."
Steve explains what saved him:
"But something slowly began to dawn on me, I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over."
He shares what came next:
"Getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again. During the next five years, I started NeXT, started Pixar, and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple."
His advice:
"Your work is going to fill a large part of your life. The only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle."
Story 3: Death
"When I was 17, I read a quote: 'If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll most certainly be right.' Since then, for the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: 'If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?' And whenever the answer has been 'No' for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something."
Steve shares why death is such a powerful tool:
"Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Almost everything, all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure, these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart."
He concludes:
"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma, which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary."
His final words:
"Stay Hungry. Stay Foolish."
@EthanBenard We all mess up from time to time. That is being human. Ignore the haters. You have gone so far in your journey. The last month is a minor blip in where are you going. Keep your spirits up and keen going. You got this!
@newstart_2024 Even when you can see it in yourself, it's very hard to change from that way of being. I have spent a lifetime people pleasing and it's exhausting.
@doqholliday so many people don't get this. some people take the conspiracy stuff too far and forget that none of it matters if you spend some much time on it you are alienated from your family.