One of the most foolish mindset you'll have as a man is to see a non virgin as one naive or innocent woman. Even virgins of today ain't innocent talk more of a non virgin.
That being said, if any non virgin is telling you no sex until marriage, just know this is the same format she's using for you.
This sentence by Van Gogh hits hard:
“If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now. For wheat is wheat, even if people think it is a grass in the beginning.”