@punkeybrewstir@steviesmother But you still have to pull yourself out of it continuously, and for the rest of your life. I don't know, I just don't think that's worth the effort.
@dudeimnormal And that's your life and the choices you make. I wouldn't make those choices because it goes against what I believe. I wouldn't want to subject a romantic partner to my suicidal thoughts and self harm urges.
@copkaaz I think we should move on from metaphors, because you can't convince me that this one works. Anyway, my point is that if I have to continuously work on my mental health for the rest of my life, I don't believe that it's worth the effort. So I'd rather let my misery be what it is.
@punkeybrewstir@steviesmother I have little smidges of happiness. I just don't try to change my misery when I know it's pointless. And I know everyone has sad moments. I'm not talking about sadness. I'm talking about depression. May I ask, how often does "rare" mean to you?
@beatnikbabyy@dudeimnormal I'm trying to give more people a more realistic view. To me, what you're doing is way more cruel. If you accept your own misery, you can enjoy the little snippets of joy you get, and have peace that you can't change the rest.
@punkeybrewstir@steviesmother And now that you have good meds you have perfect mental health? You're cured? You'll never have those dark thoughts ever again? Because if I can't be fully cured, it's not worth even a smidge of effort to me.
@copkaaz But with the cleaner, you don't have to bother with trying to clean it yourself. So it doesn't work as a metaphor. If I could hire someone so that I never had to work on my own mental health ever again (and I had the financial means for it), I would in a heartbeat.
@dudeimnormal I purposefully stay away from my crushes and those who might be romantically interested in me. In my eyes, it's not fair to subject a partner to that level of misery. But those are just my opinions about my life.
@dudeimnormal Because the process of "getting better" means suffering even more for a long time before anything happens at all. And then to keep being better, you have to continuously work on it. Lots of energy for very little reward.
@copkaaz If you pay for a therapist that doesn't mean they'll make sure you never have to deal with your mental health ever again. Having a therapist means you still have to do lots of work yourself. Hiring a cleaner means you don't have to clean yourself at all.
@dudeimnormal@steviesmother Not trying to dismiss your life or anything. If you're content with that, then that's your choice. But for myself, if I made lots of effort for 13 years and still had suicidal thoughts, I would see it as a waste of time.
@copkaaz That's not even remotely similar and doesn't work as a metaphor and you know it. Besides, you can hire someone to take out all your trash for you and you never have to think about it again. Can't do that with mental health.
@Xyrusus_Xy Even if you get "better", you'll still end up at the same starting point at some point either way. So what's the point? I legitimately can not understand why people think it's worth fighting relentlessly for years just to maybe possibly be slightly less miserable.
@dudeimnormal@steviesmother Because you'll still end up going back to 100 percent miserable at some point. What some people call recovery is in reality just a circle. You work hard to still end up the same as before.
@merriBearr@flcwergiorno@moonsonii You seem like a very sweet person and I won't discourage you from living your life and doing your thing. But the amount of effort for the (in my eyes) very minimal reward of maybe not feeling depressed all the time isn't worth it to me.
@copkaaz@moonsonii@flcwergiorno I just don’t understand how you and some others here can think it’s worth it to work your ass off for years, just to be slightly less miserable? When I can just give myself peace to give up and let whatever happens happen.