spend one single day not looking at a screen. i know this is easier said than done but just for one day do literally anything else. read a physical book. go for a walk in the park. do jumping jacks in your room. stare at the wall. listen to an album from your teenage years
there is a reason you are distracting yourself and if you stop for a day you will find out what it is. for this encounter you must cultivate courage. there is an ocean to cross, there is a dragon to face. we tell stories about heroes for a reason and as silly as it sounds, for you right now, this is that reason. the forces arrayed against you are mighty but help is available should you seek it. good luck and may god be with you
telling your brain "i know you don't wanna do the thing and it'll be very uncomfortable for you at first but you can do it buddy. it'll be fine" is actually surprisingly effective. it sounds too simple but that fuckass organ WILL listen to you if you treat it with kindness lol
the size of your life is up to you. that thought should terrify you and thrill you in the same breath. everything you are not is a choice. every limit is self imposed. every ounce of potential you havenโt touched is sitting there waiting for a version of you willing to reach for it. you can have anything you are willing to work for. so go work. go take it. stop admiring the life from a distance and go grab it.
My favorite form of intimacy has always been asking questions, to understand the architecture of someone's inner world. The way they think. The way they feel. The way their past still weaves in their present. There's a depth that people donโt show, unless you create a space for vulnerability to shine
this is the hardest truth you'll hear from me today about success, pay attention;
most people are addicted to education but allergic to execution, the problem is that people are constantly consuming hyper motivational content which is great yes, but only a few actually execute what was seen or learnt. most just say, yeah let's go and never take action.
the thing is; information can change your situation but only through implementation and instant execution.
The easiest way to stay mediocre is to keep your goals abstract and your days unexamined. Vague ambition lets you feel serious without forcing contact with serious work. The truth shows up in what you repeatedly do, not what you admire.
Learn How to Be Bored
Novak Djokovic, the 24-time Grand Slam tennis champion, recently talked about how important it is for children, especially, to learn how to be bored.
After one of his children complained about the idleness after a busy morning of play, the Serbian star sat him down.
โI said, 'Son, it's okay to be bored sometimes. It doesn't mean that you have to instantly take a book, or a screen, or anything else.
"'You need to learn how to be with your thoughts. And if you are not comfortable being bored indoors, go outdoors, sit on a chair, and have some drink, and just look at the sky.โ
Djokovic acknowledged itโs sometimes easier said than done.
โI really would love my children to be able to be okay with being bored, because that's the time when you're actually most creative. [Itโs] the time when you can manage your thoughts and everything that you have been suppressing by distracting yourself with your phone.โ
Novak is right. Silence, contemplation, and reflection are great strengths.
heard a girl say that when she feels stuck, she imagines herself at 85yrs old & gets a chance to come back to her younger body for a day. suddenly, everything feels like magic again. the walk, the coffee, the music, the sunlight. live like today is the miracle it actually is!!!
you can always tell when someone gonna be successful cuz they be blatantly different from everything else around them without even trying, the demeanor just be different.
There is a reason every man who gets his testosterone right suddenly starts waking up earlier, working harder, caring more about how he looks, becoming more aggressive about his goals and more calm under pressure at the same time. it is not a coincidence. it is just biology finally working the way it was supposed to.
My favorite line from Atomic Habits has been living in my head rent-free:
โIt doesnโt make sense to continue wanting something if youโre not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you donโt want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment.โ๏ฟผ
There's the insane belief you'll have in yourself, that as you are going through your hard times - you'd be taking pictures and videos.
Because e too sure for you say, one day everything go blend.
As a man, when the options present & it is time for you to choose a partner, I hope you choose the soft babe.
The one whose consistent demeanor is '๐ฅน'
The one gentle in expression, kind in communication & non combative.
Leave komodo dragons alone for animal control.