@prncsswick strap is not heteronormative but op is literally calling it dick, not strap, and saying sex isn’t the same without dick is insanely heteronormative what are you talking about..
And this not me trying to assign poverty to personal failure at all. I’ve been real low myself. Poverty is worked into the system. But if you’re not careful, it can warp your mind in such a way that you’ll die for money.
I mean, there are plenty of venues where they have you leave your phone in a designated area for a performance (they might have you register your serial number to confirm it’s yours, too). It’s not that uncommon.