Everyone is always rooting for you. Your parents want you to be a great son. Wife wants you to be a great husband. Your boss wants you to be a slam dunk hire. Every first date you’ve ever been on they’ve been rooting for you to get laid. Every time you started to tell a joke people hoped it would have a hilarious punch line. Your proximity to anyone is a reflection of themself, meaning the deck is never stacked against you, and your failures are completely your own
C. S. Lewis, the feminist.
“The homemaker has the ultimate career.
All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career.” — C. S. Lewis
@RealEmirHan "as are most strong men when you remove their power and they’re faced with their imminent death"
Those are the words of a coward. A weak, resentful man's idea of a strong man.
You are right. One day, my son came home early after riding bikes with his friends. My wife and I asked why he was home so early since he still had about an hour to play. He said he fell off his bike and didn’t want to ride again.
My wife said to me, “You see why he shouldn’t play outside or ride bikes like that? It’s dangerous.”
I told my son, “Okay, let me see your wound. It’s quite bad, so let’s bandage it and stop the bleeding. I’ll give you pain meds. Relax today, and tomorrow you will go out and ride your bicycle again.” I explained that as a boy, we learn from pain and don’t back down because of it.
Today, he happily went out to enjoy time with his friends riding bikes.
If left to my wife, as the protective mother she is, our boy would not ride bikes.
As a father, I have fallen many times and always gotten up to keep moving. My son needs to learn that too.
A woman does not know how to raise a boy into a man.
Ladies. I am telling you this right now. Your husband’s family matters when you have a baby. You can say they aren’t allowed in for delivery. You can ask for limited time visits. You can ask for your husband to entertain and introduce the baby if you want to stay in bed. BUT- asking his parents/grandparents to wait to meet them while you let your family in is cruel and selfish. EVEN IF they might annoy you, or his mom is an attention hog, your baby is just as much your husband’s. Your recovery needs matter, but alienating them is wrong.
Recently I visited Missouri and stayed w my mom, who grudgingly let my dogs stay too
Hub took them running and they came back with THOUSANDS of seed ticks
I fully panicked bc we were at my moms who already didn’t want the dogs there and there were SO MANY TICKS.
I put a little geranium oil on the dogs necks and the ticks literally all fell off dead and within minutes.
TRY geranium essential oil.
It is toxic like the vets meds are, so only a drop for ur animals on the back of the necks.
Reject anyone that calls this "immoral" or a "trap".
A trap must convert safe behavior into unsafe one using force or deception. The stone mailbox is harmful only against inherently unsafe behavior. Self-harm by aggressors is a moral blessing for society.
My little brother was singled out and bullied by his female teachers because he would bounce up and down when he got excited. We used to call him Tigger. He was a single digit age and they would scream at him and insult him for hopping in place in anticipation of recess or something.
It was hardly even moving, imagine bouncing your leg up and down when you feel antsy. He did it with both. They took away his recesses. They wouldn't let him go outside. They took him off the soccer team, his greatest joy in the world. They made him feel like a piece of shit. He couldn't help himself and it stressed him out so much he just started having tantrums in the morning and refused to ever go to school again.
The teachers held meetings where they determined amongst themselves that they had done nothing wrong. That my little brother, whose crime was that he felt so much excitement that he couldn't contain himself, needed to be medicated.
They brought in some experts who agreed and convinced my mom to start giving my brother anti-anxiety medication at like 10 years old. The life faded out of his eyes. He was never been the same. The tantrums never stopped. He never even graduated school. I hate every single one of them.
There's a physicist at Stanford named Safi Bahcall who modeled this exact principle and the math is wild.
He calls it "phase transitions in human networks." When you're stationary, your probability of a lucky event is limited to your existing surface area: the people you already know, the places you already go, the ideas you've already been exposed to. Your opportunity window is fixed.
When you move, your collision rate with new nodes in a network increases nonlinearly. Double your movement (new conversations, new cities, new projects) and your probability of a serendipitous encounter doesn't double. It roughly quadruples. Because each new node connects you to their entire network, not just to them.
Richard Wiseman ran a 10-year study at the University of Hertfordshire tracking self-described "lucky" and "unlucky" people. The single biggest differentiator wasn't IQ, education, or family money. Lucky people scored significantly higher on one trait: openness to experience. They talked to strangers more, varied their routines more, and said yes to invitations at nearly twice the rate.
The "unlucky" group followed the same routes, ate at the same restaurants, and talked to the same 5 people. Their networks were closed loops. No new inputs, no new collisions.
Luck isn't random. Luck is surface area. And surface area is a function of movement.
The lobster emoji is doing more work than most people realize. Lobsters grow by shedding their shell when it gets too tight. The growth requires a period of total vulnerability. No protection, no armor, soft body exposed to the ocean.
That's the cost of movement nobody posts about. You have to be uncomfortable first. The new shell only hardens after you've already moved.
The only advice i would give a son is the world hates you until you become useful. then it pretends it never hated you, and you must remember that it did, or you will start believing the love is real. and that is how they tame you
Huh, so after being convinced that they were powerless, they just laid down and whined while accepting the negative consequences rather than being ACCELERATED into a kind of UPRISING?
Very interesting. Really makes you wonder why there’s so much demoralization around here…
This is how you curse your posterity and leave no legacy. He probably lost her heart years ago.
I am obsessed with providing housing to my children until, and even after, they are married. Especially my girls. There will be no reason for them to leave my roof/protection. Insane to think this way. Shameful.
Lord, turn the hearts of the fathers to their children and the hearts of the children to their fathers!
There are places in this world where you can leave your phone on a park bench, come back 2 hours later, and it will still be there.
Don’t forget that. That’s how it should be.
Forcing kids to vegetate for 12 years when they could play the entire curriculum like an RPG tree at their own pace is by far the greatest instance of child abuse we've passively accepted as ordinary.