I genuinely feel like parts of findom are dying.
Being a financial dominatrix was never supposed to be just about taking money. There’s so much more to financial control than collecting tributes.
Budgeting with your sub. Setting spending limits. Deciding how much they can spend in a day, week, or month. Helping manage their finances. Even discussing things like what they’re going to eat for the week.
That level of control and involvement is what makes me feel so much more dominant than simply receiving a tribute.
I want the actual connection. I want to sit down with my sub, go through their finances, discuss their spending, and have an active role in their financial life with their consent and agreed boundaries, obviously.
That side of findom feels like it’s disappearing because everyone wants to be a Domme where the work stops at “send me money.”
But being a financial Domme can involve so much more than taking.