Northwest Men and Women’s soccer coach. 20+ years student of the great game and always learning. Master Coach Diploma and UEFA B license. keen golfer too.
Tom Brady reveals the brutally honest talk he had with a Michigan sports psychologist that turned him from a benchwarmer into the GOAT.
Brady's transformation started with one change: the way he thought.
"I sit on the bench my first year, and I really had—I would call it—a lot of self-defeating attitudes and behaviors. I always had an excuse. 'Coach doesn't want me in there.'"
"I had a sports psychologist. His name was Greg Harden. I would go into his office every Tuesday, and he would say, 'Tom, I like you. You work hard, but you have a shitty attitude.'"
"'How about you start worrying about what you can control and stop talking about the other quarterbacks, stop talking about the coaches not putting you in.'"
"If they give you three reps, you do the best with the three you get. Quit bitching about you only getting three or you going in there with the backup receivers. No one cares.'"
"'You treat practice like it's a game. If you throw a touchdown in the two-minute in practice, you celebrate like it's the game.'"
Brady never approached it that way before. Then "sure enough" everything changed.
"Mmy energy started getting way better. I was bringing juice; I had the right attitude."
"Then all of a sudden, I'm bringing the juice, man. Every day, boom."
"That [mindshift] really helped me get better."
The road to 7 Super Bowl rings didn't start on the practice field; it started in that very office…
Benfica in Portugal had to score a goal on the last play of rhe game in order to advance in the Champions League
And their goalie came down and scored it. I was watching live and what a wild scene
🎙️ Pep Guardiola was asked today at his Champions League press conference how coaches can develop intelligent, creative footballers like Bernardo Silva 🧠⚽
His reply was fascinating 👇
He is a street player ⚽
Today it’s the coaches’ fault that players are only educated on what to do. But Bernardo does what the game dictates in every action 🧠
A true problem solver
He’s intuitive.
He knows exactly what to do.
In bad moments watch how he reacts.
In good moments he’s always there.
Attitude 🔥
Never injured 💪
Plays every few days ⏱️
No massages. No excuses.
Professional ✅
Pressure doesn’t create mistakes.
It reveals what you practiced.
Your talent doesn’t take over.
Your standard does.
And if your standard is “sometimes,” that’s what you’ll be when it matters.
We do what we trained.
"You cannot behave in a way that jeopardizes Liverpool Football Club."
Rebecca, Robbie Mustoe and Lee Dixon sound off after Mo Salah's explosive statements on his Liverpool future.
It’s every day…
Every day…every day…every day…
You’ve got to be ready. Brace! Brace! Brace!
So says Sean Dyche, Nottingham Forest manager…
A competitive tension. Ready to run and run and run. Do ugly. Ready to go again and again and again.
This is the same for every ambitious environment in any given context. It’s the same for ambitious entrepreneurs. It’s the same for any ambitious workplace. It’s the same for any ambitious corporation (and team of workers within corporations).
Not the running…no! But the attention to detail. The engagement with colleagues for cooperation and coordination. The intent to problem solve and find solutions in meetings. Not the running…but application of mental attention, mental intensity, and mental intent - energy-forward.
As in sport, so in business, so in life…
It’s every day…every day…every day…
And then even better rest and recuperation. Deep rest. Restorative recuperation…
And then go again…
Don’t let fear prevent you from reaching your goals. Stop worrying so much about failure and how others will think of you. Conquer your fears, believe in yourself, and chase your dreams!
Male recruits:
Here are the realities in this modern day NCAA Division I model for Men’s Soccer.
Almost every single Division I coach I have talked to, texted, emailed or spoke in person to have said the same thing regardless of record or conference.
“Going to search the portal first and honestly won’t really look at a H.S. age player unless they are an impact starter type of player”.
The 28 player roster cap has derailed your ability to get looked at the Division I level.
There is a greater chance to get looked at the NJCAA, D2 or NAIA as a transfer than as a H.S. aged player. It’s a man’s game and there are no longer 4 year projects for development.
The requirement is right here and right now in terms of impact.
I have said this before, if the parking garage is full and there are no spots you either keep driving around level 1 wasting time and energy, or go to level 2, 3, 4 and get your day going.
Have three players at NJCAA tournaments and I keep getting calls from D1’s about them. It’s not where you start in this day and age it’s where you finish. It’s a new game.
Most people think winning is a destination.
A place you arrive.
A trophy you collect.
They’re wrong.
Winning is a daily habit.
It’s completing the tasks that matter when you don’t feel like it.
It’s doing the stuff you hate because it moves you forward.
It’s fighting and overcoming the internal battles that nobody else sees.
It’s handling the “small” details that most people ignore.
These small daily wins are what create the “big” wins that everybody else looks at and identifies as winning.
It’s not luck.
It’s not talent.
It’s not perfect timing.
It’s daily execution.
Every day is another opportunity to win.
Don’t waste it.
When you can build the habit of winning every day...
Winning becomes a reflection of who you are instead of what you do.
Win the day...
Win your life.
Fake toughness is loud.
It's the coach who leads by punishment, the boss who rules by fear, the parent who is all demand and no support.
This is just insecurity masked as strength.
Real toughness is quiet.
It's not about bulldozing through; it's about navigating discomfort. It’s about creating space to make a thoughtful choice.
Mental toughness is about pushing yourself to stay outside of your comfort zone, both physically and mentally. Discomfort is a sign that you're giving your best effort. If you're feeling comfortable, then you most likely need to give more effort.
Adversity reveals character
Not playing a lot?
Easy route = point the finger, transfer, play victim
Hard route = work harder, prove you deserve more, take accountability, look in the mirror
Struggling in a game?
Easy route = Be hard on yourself, have constant negative self talk, let it linger & turn into a domino effect
Hard route = Get extra reps, understand that everyone struggles (it’s part of the game), lock in on the details, short memory (next play mentality)
Mentally tough athletes never give up in games. No matter how many points they’re losing by, they remain hopeful and give their best effort for the entire game.