Parents for the love of god please stay out of your son or daughters dugout. Players, stop going to visit mommy and daddy during the game. You might as well go out on the field with an emotional support stuffed animal at this point it’s getting a little nuts. Get their water or whatever they need before the game you don’t need to visit each other 5 times a game and then wonder why they can’t do hard things on their own.
One of the reasons youth sports has become so complicated is because everyone involved is often chasing a different definition of success.
One parent wants college recruiting to be the primary focus. Another wants their child to enjoy the experience and make friends. Another wants championships. Another wants equal playing time. Another believes development matters more than wins. Another believes if you’re paying thousands of dollars, your child should be on the field or court.
None of those perspectives are necessarily or inherently wrong. They’re just different.
The challenge is that one coach, one team, and one season cannot satisfy all of them at the same time.
Parents are also navigating an increasingly confusing landscape. Travel teams, private trainers, recruiting services, showcases, camps, social media influencers, former players, college coaches, and other parents all offer advice. Often that advice directly contradicts itself.
One person says play multiple sports. Another says specialize early.
One person says development matters most. Another says exposure matters most.
One person says find the best coach. Another says find the team that will give your child the most playing time.
One person says your child needs more reps. Another says your child needs more rest.
One person says the child should attend prom and not miss life events. Another says team commitments should come before all else.
For families investing significant amounts of time and money, it can become incredibly difficult to know who to trust.
The coaching side is just as complicated.
Most coaches are not showing up every day trying to hold players back, target families, or play favorites. Most genuinely care about their athletes and want them to succeed. But coaches are often forced to make decisions where there are no perfect answers.
Should they prioritize winning or development?
Should they play the senior who has earned it or the younger player with a higher ceiling?
Should they focus on the best interests of one athlete or the best interests of the team?
Should they reward effort, production, leadership, potential, experience, or loyalty?
Every decision creates a winner and a loser in someone’s eyes.
A coach sees the entire roster. A parent sees their child.
Neither perspective is inherently wrong, but they naturally create conflict.
The reality is that parents often judge a season through the lens of their child’s experience, while coaches are forced to evaluate it through the lens of the entire team. Those viewpoints frequently collide.
Add in the emotional investment, financial commitment, social media comparisons, recruiting pressure, and the fact that every child develops at a different pace, and it becomes easy to see why frustration exists.
Youth sports isn’t difficult because people don’t care.
It’s difficult because everyone cares deeply.
Parents care about their children.
Coaches care about their teams.
Athletes care about their opportunities.
And when passionate people are pursuing different goals, disagreements are inevitable.
The best environments aren’t the ones where everyone always agrees. They’re the ones where expectations are clear, communication is honest, trust is built over time, and everyone remembers that there are many different paths to success in sports and in life.
High school athletic directors.
Within five minutes, I can usually tell the great ones and the bums.
But regardless of where they fall on that spectrum, almost all of them have one thing in common:
They're overworked and their departments are severely understaffed.
Think about it.
Many high schools have 35-45 sports and activities under one department umbrella.
Most have multiple levels.
That's 2,000-3,000 students, 1,500-2,500 events a school year (not including summer, offseason training and don’t forget overtime and weather delays), countless (pain-in-the-ass) parents, coaches (some great, some young, stubborn and dumb), game officials (showing up late or asking about payment), transportation (bus drivers lost), trainers, facilities (how many ADs are working on fields during the spring?), weather reschedules, scheduling conflicts and community expectations.
And that’s just the start.
We're asking one full-time athletic director and one 40-hour administrative assistant to manage it all?
Oh that’s right, they get a stipend assistant AD to help half the time.
Here’s what is truly comical: Some ADs are even forced to teach classes on top of it.
That's not a joke. That's reality.
High school athletic departments aren't rec leagues.
They're million-dollar nonprofits. They're communications departments. They're marketing departments. They're event management companies. They're community engagement engines. They're often the most visible part of a school district 365 days a year.
Yet many are staffed like it's 1956.
As June begins and school leaders finally get a chance to catch their breath, school boards should be asking a simple question:
Are we investing in the people who make our athletic departments shine?
Instead of another flashy scoreboard or cosmetic project, what would happen if those dollars went toward staffing, communications, operations or student-athlete self-care support?
The mental exhaustion in education is real.
Athletic directors carry more of it than most people realize.
It's time we start treating high school athletic departments like the businesses they've become instead of the hobby departments many still think they are.
#MoreThanJUSTGames #IHSA
So, so you think you can tell Heaven from Hell, blue skies from pain
Can you tell a green field from a cold steel rail?
A smile from a veil?
Do you think you can tell?
Did they get you to trade your heroes for ghosts?
Hot ashes for trees?
Hot air for a cool breeze?
Cold comfort for change?
Did you exchange
A walk-on part in the war for a lead role in a cage?
How I wish, how I wish you were here
We're just two lost souls swimming in a fishbowl, year after year
Running over the same old ground
What have we found?
The same old fears
Wish you were here
Campus softball advances to the 6A state championship tomorrow with today’s 7-2 semifinal win over Mill Valley 🥎
@bjbowman13 caught up with first-year head coach Emily Prichard, senior Kyra Caudillo, and sophomore Kylie Matthews ⬇️
Matthews pitched a complete-game and Caudillo led the Lady Colts with three hits 🔥
@LadyColtSB@CampusColts
Campus beats Mill Valley in the first 6A state softball semifinals games, 7-2.
Haysville Campus Varsity Lady Colts defeated Mill Valley 7-2 on Thursday after pulling away in the middle innings. Jocelyn Daily got the scoring started in the second, and Lily Clements added to the lead with an RBI double in the third. Mill Valley tied it 2-2 in the bottom of the third on a two-run homer by Liv Peery, but the Lady Colts responded in the fourth with RBI singles from Alexis Butler and Kyra Caudillo to regain control.
Kylie Matthews pitched a complete game for Haysville Campus, allowing two runs on 10 hits over seven innings. The Lady Colts finished with 15 hits offensively, led by Caudillo, Butler, and Emmi Cooper with three hits each. Caudillo also drove in two runs. Haysville played clean defense with no errors and turned a double play.
Mill Valley was led by Logan Waters with three hits.
Campus will play the winner of Gardner Edgerton and Topeka in the state championship. #sportsinkansas
6A and 5A State Baseball and Softball schedule alert:
Thursday 5/28:
2:00 pm first game then second game immediately following:
6A SFB semifinal: Campus vs Mill Valley
6A SFB semifinal: Gardner Edgerton vs Topeka
2:00 pm first game then second game immediately following:
5A BSB semifinal: Great Bend vs St. Thomas Aquinas
5A BSB semifinal: St. James vs Shawnee Hts
Friday 5/29
10:00 am rolling schedule
5A SFB semifinals
6A BSB Semifinals
Followed by championship games. 6A, 5A SFB; 5A, 6A BSB. There will be no consolation games.