@mictl4ntecutlil@velv3tangel It's not delusion. You are the source of everything you can ever and will ever desire. You just have to master your mind. Become aware of your abilities as an infinite being
@thelongmarch86 Inside every right winger is a petty lord who only cares for their self and any small sacrifice they’re asked to make for the rest of society is tyranny to them. Parenti talks about a similar entitlement among the rich here
@Ak6338952927051@lugcotn@SineadWatson91@lullabystarlust I actually like to be inherently nice too. It feels really nice to give love fully. Not just "fake nice" where I pretend to be compassionate and look out for people just to turn around low-key hateful things in the name of "looking out for them" but that's just me tho. 🤷🏾♀️
if you want to be unforgettable, just be you. yeah i mean this literally, that’s all you need to do. there is literally no other person like you. there are so many things that unique to only you. just try to be yourself. don’t know who you are yet? cool. take some time and actually figure it out. it ain’t that hard. look at the moments you felt most alive. cause that’s the whole point of life. look for the patterns. strip away all the expectations and ask yourself “what would i do if nobody judged me?” there’s your answer hiding somewhere in that question.
try things seriously. do small experiments. “do i even enjoy this?” test it. pay attention to what you envy too. yeah, envy. because most of the time it points toward desires that you haven’t admitted to yourself yet. and stop making life so serious all the time. have fun. explore. reflect. evolve. becoming yourself and having fun is literally the whole point.
how to go from friends to close friends:
(big part of adulting is practicing this!!)
tips:
> put yourself out there and hang 1:1, even if it's out of the ordinary for your relationship
> make new memories together - don't just be 'catch up' friends. you need to create opportunities for new memories together
> create depth. vulnerability is key. open up about your REAL life - something you want advice on. people bond through depth
> find unexpected overlaps - same hometown, a shared hobby, a same set of values - it's more likely to make the connection stick
> follow-up on what's meaningful to them - check-in about their stressors, how the project went. BE there for them
> experience something new - go on a road trip, an adventure, a concert, etc
> naturally, living close to each other helps with this process
> recurring, recurring, recurring - you need repeat interactions to build depth
> unpack the qualities in common with people you're already close friends with & find ways to get closer with more of those people
> let it happen naturally - not every friend is going to turn into a close friend. there are different seasons, reasons for our friends and that's OKAY! don't force what isn't meant to be there
don’t be disappointed if this process fails with someone. there’s a lot of factors that have to go RIGHT to make a close friend: both available, both looking to expand their circle, etc. it's usually never personal & it's always worth putting yourself out there.
the right people will match your energy!!!
i'm proud of you!!!
go make those new close friends!!!
Don't do this unless you're prepared to have your life completely transformed in a matter of weeks, you're actually doing magic, the good kind of magic
one time i was feeling sad, so i went to a dog park to look at dogs. i did not own a dog.
i walked through the gate, sat on a rock next to a girl around my age, and asked her which dog was hers.
turns out she didn’t own a dog either.
we laughed. then for the next two hours, we talked about our lives, our childhoods, our ex boyfriends… all the things that felt so so heavy at the time.
for those two hours, she was my best friend. she made me feel seen, understood, and a little less alone. and i think i did that for her too.
then we hugged, never exchanged contact, and never saw each other again.
sometimes I think about her. and all the other serendipitous, short, but meaningful connections we can have with other human beings on this earth.
genuine human understanding is so so precious. and the willingness to be open to them, is worth protecting, and worth fighting for.
so if it takes just a small bit of courage, i think i’ll keep going to dog parks alone.
My Granny once told me something that slapped me right in the face.
She said:
In five years, most of the people you see every day will be strangers again. The coworkers you eat lunch with. The neighbors you wave to. The people you bend yourself into shapes for so things stay "easy."
Not gone. Just... no longer in your orbit. That's how life works. People flow in. People flow out. And you don't get to control who stays. When that really landed, I thought about how much energy I'd spent trying to be liked. How many times I said yes when my body said no. How often I made choices based on who might be disappointed later. And for what? If so many people are only here for a chapter, why do we build our lives around keeping them comfortable? This is your reminder: YOU are allowed to invest YOUR energy where it actually matters. YOU are allowed to build a life that feels good to YOU - even if it doesn't make sense to anyone else. Because in five years, they might be strangers again. But you'll still be here.
If this hit you like it hit me, save it as a reminder to choose yourself.