There is a difference between a mother & a wife.
A woman can be a good mother and a terrible wife at the same time.
My gender, we can actually do better by fitting perfectly well into both roles. It is not difficult, it only requires intentionality.
Peace!!!
That girlfriend that you're dating & is hardly accountable to you, even when you give her money to do something, is the future wife that would not teach your kids to say "thank you" to you, when you pay their fees or buy clothes for them.
And she'll be stealing your money.
As a married man, your duty is not to go and pay school fees or go to the market or boutique to buy clothes for your children.
It's your wife's duty.
Yours is to provide the money and give it to your wife.
And your wife should return to you, and give an account of what she spent, and if she spent extra, you can reimburse her later.
I have told you young men.
If you're stupid enough to give your girlfriend 500k to buy a phone or hair, and she goes ahead to use the entire money to buy it, you're dating a wasteful & a greedy girlfriend.
Any girl that spends money that she doesn't earn on any expensive material thing, even if you gave her the money, is wasteful.
Rather, she should use part of the money to do something useful for herself, and then show you and give an account of what she did with the money.
If you demand accountability and she starts to say:
"But you gave me the money, why are you still asking me to explain what I used it for?"
Change it for her immediately.
Don't tolerate it because what you're doing is enabling her sense of entitlement and accepting ingratitude.
When you marry her, she'll start to see the school fees you give her to pay for the kids and the money you give her for shopping as her own, and she will not see the need to tell your kids to be grateful or thankful to you, their father.
That's one of the ways to lead a woman.
You don't wait until you marry her before you start correcting a lot of things.
Otherwise:
"But this is how you used to do it, why are you complaining now?"
A man owes his wife financial transparency & efficient planning.
And a wife owes her husband financial accountability & prudency.
End.
@jon_d_doe@ezeorah_eric@ajstylescouture The guy meet a cool girl ooo because if you bring this energy to me, I go give you 10times of it. You don smoke weed add colos then enter my DM to say rubbish, Oshi radarada
@jon_d_doe Even some men @ 40 are yet to find their foot, hustling yet nothing to show because the current situation of this country is nothing to write home about
May God help us
@jon_d_doe Very true
Before my dad buried his father with a live cow, he wasn't eating at people's funeral for this same reason. It's culture and people believe it so much. I'm from Rivers state and such still happens in my community even some Christians practice this