@XtremistRX@Pat_Stedman Are you talking about the reddit post or my reply? Because my relationship is fucking amazing. No games at all, just taking accountability and stepping up.
Of course we talked about it, but I had to actually be a good man and husband before it was going to work.
>it's directionally correct, but there are some major caveats
Of course some parts are left out. I can't write every detail in a reply.
>The only way for a man to break through this final layer of control is for him to overcome his own shame of wanting what he wants from her, and being willing to leave the marriage if he doesn't get it.
This is correct. After I did all those things I mentioned consistently, I sat my wife down and told her I was not willing to continue on that way, fully prepared for it to be over if she was not willing to meet me halfway. Luckily she had just been waiting for me to step up, she acknowledged her own part she played in our issues, and now we've never been happier.
@zoomerwoman >If men didnβt like makeup, women wouldnβt be wearing makeup.
Fundamental misunderstanding of intrasexual competition.
Women wear makeup for other women, just like men continue to body build well past a healthy physique for other men.
We kiss, we cuddle, we laugh, we hang out, we date. She tries on her new sundress for me so I can bathe her in compliments. I help her hang Christmas decorations. She listens to me talk about AI models or how no one at work knows what they're doing.
And she will ask me if we can have sex tonight. SHE brings it up if it's been a few days. She sends naughty texts. I touch her throughout the day, hold her hips and kiss her shoulder. Then she jumps me when the kids are down.
From kids 10+ years ago to 1 year ago it was ~once every four months, and she literally called it "fulfilling her wifely duties", which made me feel like shit. But besides the bedroom, we barely did anything together. She did her thing, I did mine. Complete disconnect.
Then I did the stuff in my reply above. Then I sat her down to tell her I couldn't live that way anymore. Then we spent a couple awkward weeks finding one another again. Finally, we became inseparable; a second honeymoon phase. It's cooled a bit over the year, but it's the marriage I pictured in my head when I proposed. We have both been intentional about not letting it slip again.
@woodilicious@robertskmiles And if I'm right, I feel like a lot of headway towards general intelligence could be made by instilling that sense of duration, if it's even possible with the transformer architecture.
@woodilicious@robertskmiles They're disconnected from time, is the issue. They think in snapshots of time, even more than we do. They seem to have no sense of duration or time passing. They can check timestamps on logs and try to logically reason about it, but they don't "get it".
That's my take at least.
@omniguest@Aella_Girl Fictional characters have motivations assigned to them. One of the main problems with ASI is that we don't know how to control its motivations.