This was the last thing @TimKellerNYC ever said to Redeemer Presbyterian Church.
In God’s providence, it was scheduled to be shared with Redeemer congregants on May 19—the day he died (three years ago today).
Communication expert Jefferson Fisher showed me something I won’t forget...
He calls it the string theory.
When two people are talking, there’s an invisible string between them.
If you check your phone, the string goes slack. Even just having it on the table breaks the connection.
Here’s how he explained it 👇🏾
There are very few things in life that matter & we have to be about those things.
Honored to attend the National Prayer Breakfast & share God’s powerful work in my life - how tragic days became my most transformative & how God became a Healer, Redeemer & dispenser of hope.
Charlie Kirk on how he wanted to be remembered.
Question: “How would you wanna be remembered?”
Charlie: “I wanna be remembered for courage for my faith. That that would be the most important thing. The most important thing is my faith in my life.”
As a pastor trying to lead a healthy church staff, here are 5 MISTAKES I've made more often than I'd like to admit:
1. Allowing Ambiguity
When people aren't clear on expectations, job descriptions, what success looks like, what our vision is, etc... it sets everyone up to lose.
Key idea: "If it's not written down, it doesn't exist."
2. Devaluing Differences
I've had times where I subtly devalued and disregarded people who didn't think, process, or work like I do. But that only leads to a lopsided staff with all the same weaknesses.
Meditating on 1 Corinthians 12, using good profile assessments, & having conversations about strengths/weaknesses are crucial.
3. Mismanaging Meetings
Leaders have to have meetings. Leaders who hate meetings (and act like it) are cutting their own legs out from under themselves.
We need different kinds of meetings, shorter meetings, purposeful meetings, and prepared-for meetings.
4. Avoiding Accountability
This is often a byproduct of unclear expectations, but it's also the common result of a lack of courage. We have to provide clarity on the front end and coaching along the way.
If you are avoiding a tough conversation or constantly adapting your own priorities to accommodate for underperforming teammates, there's an accountability problem.
5. Trivializing Transition
All leadership is change leadership. It's inherently saying, "We can't stay here. We must go there." That change creates pain and loss.
When we don't take seriously how it's disrupting people, we will either steamroll them without compassion or allow them to steamroll us when they emotionally try to steer us back to the status quo.
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Leading a church staff is hard and complicated. The strange overlap of relationships (spiritual family, co-workers, friends, etc) is super weird. Even when it's going well, it's almost always fragile.
But if we watch out for these leadership landmines, we'll have a much better shot at success.
Follow me @lukedsimmons for more resources and tools on healthy church leadership.
@calvinrobinson Calvin, I find you fascinating! Would love to grab lunch sometime if you’re in PHX. If you were back in England, would you feel comfortable wearing apparel related to the king or queen? Or would you feel it important to keep some element of distance between gov and faith?
🚨 Crisis in Manipur 🚨
Hundreds of Christians in India are marching with empty coffins to demand justice.
In just two weeks:
🕊️ 20 lives lost in fresh violence
🔥 6 more churches burned
📴 Internet shut down and curfews imposed
Since last May, 50,000 Christians have fled their homes in Manipur. Families are living in fear as the government refuses to release the bodies of 10 Christians killed by police.
#India #PrayForManipur