La fidelidad no nace del amor que sientes por el otro, sino del amor que te tienes a ti. Es disciplina del alma, respeto por tu palabra, congruencia con tus valores e inteligencia emocional en acción. No es una prueba de amor: es una prueba de integridad.
A good life also includes: making mistakes, not knowing where to start, asking for help, changing your mind, resting without guilt, outgrowing friendships, not having the answers, saying no, crying, healing, rebuilding , doing it scared , throwing everything and starting over .
“What if my friends secretly hate me?”
What if they pray for you before bed? What if they hear a song come on and it makes them immediately think of you? What if when times are hard for them, they close their eyes and think of the memories they’ve shared with you? What if they study your face closely to see how you’re feeling? What if they listen to your stories? What if they smile when you text them first? What if…
my emotions just feel really cleansed right now. i feel like water. i feel like i can see everything i'm carrying, and there is so much mercy between the flow of things. i haven't felt this much joy in a very long time and it's tripping me out how rich the human experience is .
i loved you quietly and consistently. I was the one who noticed when your energy changed, who asked how you were really doing even when you said you were fine.
I stayed consistent even when your replies became shorter and your effort started slipping. I never made a big deal out of it because I didn’t want to pressure you I just wanted you to feel supported.
I gave you my patience, my time, and my belief in you without expecting anything dramatic in return. I stayed soft with you even on the days you made it difficult. My love wasn’t loud or showy, but it was steady and real.
One day, when someone only loves you when it’s convenient for them, you’ll remember how I loved you even when it wasn’t convenient for me. You’ll think about the way I stayed present without keeping score, and it will finally hit you that you lost someone who genuinely cared about your peace not just when it was easy, but especially when it wasn’t.
Your first attempt might not be very good, but nobody's early work is good. There will always be a gap between where you are and where you want to be. And the bridge between that gap is courage. The courage to look foolish in the beginning. The courage to show up again when your early work is criticized. The courage to look yourself in the mirror and say, "I realize I'm not good enough yet, but the only way to get better is to keep working on it."
I'm increasingly convinced that the ultimate sign of growth is faster recovery. You still get upset. You still make mistakes. You still have bad days. But you return to center faster.
Apologize faster. Reset faster. Learn faster. Fast recovery compounds.
A real sign of healing is when you stop taking everything personally. You begin to see that people act from their own patterns, their own wounds, their own stories. Their behavior is about them, not you. And the moment you understand that, life feels lighter.
The kindest thing literature does is remind you that your peculiar little feelings have always existed. Someone, in some century, was equally confused by love, bored by society, tired of performing, and hungry for meaning.
it’s so nice that, as we get older, i get to see my friends' softer side & how they truly care for others through their words and actions. they no longer hide their love behind the walls they've built from years of disappointment.