You’ll stop seeking external validation and acceptance once you observe and realize how disturbed and disconnected society truly is. People cannot see you because they cannot even see themselves clearly.
the few times a connection has ended on bad terms in my life, it’s when I held someone accountable for how their actions impacted me emotionally. instead of wanting to problem solve and create a healthy dynamic, they chose avoidance and denial
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I wish more people knew listening to your elders isn’t always good advice. Older doesn’t always mean wiser. Many people age, but never grow. Take advice from people who’ve created life on their own terms. Bitterness has not robbed them of wisdom.
It's a sign of high emotional intelligence when you can change your relationships with others and control how you respond to them instead of trying to change or control them. If they make you feel seen, heard, and understood, give them more access. Otherwise, adjust their access.
as an “actual” private person, i can over confirm that people becomes very odd when they can’t figure you out or what’s truly going on in your life and beyond the surface. most importantly, normalize lying to people who ask too much about your private life. people be weird asf.
delayed grief is dangerous. you don't cry. you're numb, and you move on like nothing significant happened. you keep suppressing everything until the day it finally escapes, and when it does, it's like a dam bursting, flooding your mind and heart, making it difficult to cope