@thisisfoster In our times of grieving we have sought the Scriptures about what happens to these precious souls. My husband and I recently became covenantal and that has helped our understanding, but would you be willing to write about this in a future article?
@thisisfoster We have lost several children to miscarriages. Thank you for your wisdom and may the Lord continue to give you and your family grace and peace as you walk through your recent loss.
Reminder that if you are fully vaccinated and up to date on boosters, you are allowed to celebrate the Fourth of July.
Those vaccinated are even permitted to have a very small backyard barbecue. Five person maximum.
The discourse on separating children out for kids ministry during church makes it apparent that much of what passes for "worship" in churches today is not recognizably Christian. Not because of overt heresy, but because it is completely vacant of God's divine service to His people through the means of grace.
There is no such thing as "age-appropriate" worship. Listening to a forty-minute lecture on discipleship or a chapter of the Bible is not Christian worship. Churches formed around pedagogy and praise music are not "healthy," no matter how big they are or how much they are growing.
The Church and true Christian worship are found in the corporate proclamation, distribution, and reception of God's Word—not primarily in its explanation, but in its proclamation—and in the Sacraments.
These gifts are given to all people, regardless of age, station, or mental capacity. They are God's actual divine work for His people. It is incredibly sad to see how many Christians are robbed of this through the banal reconstruction of worship around modern infotainment preferences.
Many years ago, I was in the nursing mother’s room, a tad exasperated and speaking with Bridget Baucham. My husband worked out of town most of the time, and we drove an hour and twenty minutes to the church in Spring, Tx.
“I just feel like what’s the point sometimes, I am always back here.”
“Taryn, your babies are not going to remember today’s sermon. They are going to remember that their mom faithfully brought them to church every Sunday to hear the word of God and fellowship with other believers. You are worshipping as much in training them back here as you would in your seat.”
(For anyone who knows the Bauchams, you know Bridget is as solid as they come. She had a way of saying things and this young mom needed her words then.)
I listened to the recorded sermons during the week, and I kept taking my babies, understanding that my act of worship to the Lord was to be faithful in bringing up my children knowing the gathering of the saints was important, even if I didn’t hear the sermon in that sitting. I would bring them in and sit until we needed to go back out, and repeat. And the families around me supported me in doing so.
Hearing the message on Sunday isn’t the only reason we gather. It’s a big part- don’t think I don’t mean that. But, parents teaching their children to sit in service is not a distraction, it is a calling.
Anecdotally, I’ve observed a few related things over the years:
1. Many evangelicals have been equipped over decades with an instinct that church is primarily for adults (i.e. “big church”) not children. This is a faulty instinct that is difficult to recalibrate.
2. Parents who *depend* on age-based kids ministry through (at least) elementary school are inconsistent, at best, with daily at-home discipling.
3. Parents who are inconsistent in daily at-home discipling often struggle most with their children in the service—not only behaviorally, but also in their own attitudes: “If I can’t listen without distraction, it’s not even worth it.”
4. This attitude often betrays a faulty view of participation in a church’s worship. Many assume that worship is purely passive—not unlike going to the movies (which the architecture and stage design in many churches sadly reinforce). If this is one’s mindset, then having to “work” with your kids seems contrary to the nature of worship itself. But if corporate worship IS work—a GOOD work—in our singing, praying, reading and reciting, and eating—then we bring our children to work, so to speak, showing and training them to do what we do when we gather.
5. Often, the worry that “everything is over their heads” is misplaced because (1) parents assume *maximal* comprehension at a young age is essential. (It’s not). Also, in many cases, children who are daily instructed at home (especially through daily Bible reading, hymn singing, and catechesis in which they are trained to sit still and participate) comprehend more than children who are not. Often, they’re bored and restless and everything is “over their heads” because parents don’t prepare them well or at all for the most normative Christian act of obedience there is: Gathering with a church. Many look to church programs and volunteers on Sunday to do that.
6. More pastors (including this one) need to be better at preaching to *everyone* in the gathering, including kids.
7. This kind of kids ministry depends on a multi-service model lest their committed volunteers disobey Hebrews -25. This is an especially difficult tension for committed single-service churches who are not Family Integrated.
I say all this as a Pastor of a church that values ministry to children AND integration—and am constantly working to hold these in tension.
And I don’t doubt the sincerity of most who commit to a ministry philosophy different than my own. They undoubtedly love Jesus, families, and children.
But I think they would agree that sincerity is never enough. We need to think carefully about these things and train our people accordingly.
I think children’s ministry is valuable, but I also think the default instincts for many evangelical Christians— especially those trained by large and megachurch multi-service environments (of which I was a part for many years)—are more cultural and pragmatic than scriptural, and extremely difficult to change.
Two things...
1. Jesus said to let the little children come to Him. By bringing our children to worship the Risen Christ with all their fellow saints, they come to Christ in His Word preached and His body broken. To hinder them from coming is a grievous sin.
2. Parents need to work hard throughout the week to train their little ones to not be a distraction during the service, and if Jr. is being a rascal during the service, they should quickly remove them, discipline them, and bring them back as quickly as possible.
@DrSuzanneH7 Thank you for your response. I have CHD and have a bovine valve since 2012. You helped me navigate so many things over the years through your work including vaccine awareness (especially the vitamin K at birth) as well as your whooping cough protocol. Thank you for your work!
To every father reading this:
The world is loud with confusion, but your kids need something clearer from you. Be present. Speak truth. Love without apology. Sacrifice without keeping score.
You’re not just raising children. You are shaping souls and pushing back against a culture that tells them nothing matters. Keep going. The next generation is watching how men lead.
Happy Father’s Day to every dad still in the fight. You matter more than you know.
Melissa Hortman was the ONLY Democrat Rep to vote against taxpayer funded healthcare for illegals in Minnesota.
She was the deciding vote.
This was the last vote she cast before she was kiIIed.
Never forget.
Since I’m going to be hearing this for the next 6 months as a Texas voter, let me answer the question:
“You would vote for an adulterer over James Talarico? That’s not very Christian.”
Here’s the truth: I would rather vote for almost anyone else who is going to at least advocate for conservative *policies* over a literal heretic who wears my faith like a skin suit, advocates for policies that harm children, endorses immorality and generally harm society.
Ken Paxton has personal baggage. I don’t deny that. But Talarico has plenty too — and he openly mocks God’s law and treats Jesus as a political mascot all while pushing a radical far-left agenda that would be a disaster for my state.
You see, I’m an adult. I do not expect those who are seeking political office to be my moral superiors or even trustworthy. They are tools to be used to do the least amount of damage via policy.
I wish more pastors and men who live godly lives were running. I really do. But the options we get are what they are.
Paxton supports secure borders, law enforcement, lower taxes, unleashing American energy, the Second Amendment, just to name a few.
Talarico supports unlimited abortion, trans-ing children, higher taxes, government-run “healthcare,” and is incredibly comfortable blaspheming the word of God.
I’m not voting for a priest. I’m voting for an imperfect person to represent my interests. That’s how it works.
You’re not going to guilt trip Texans into supporting a looney tunes candidate like Talarico. Paxton will win by 5+.
It’s about policy, not personality.
Here's how the game they're playing with Erika works. They start with an outrageous claim or accusation that's so serious and damaging, it feels like you have no choice but to respond to it. Then they flip the burden of proof. Instead of proving the claim, they demand proof it isn't true. This is burden-shifting, but it's made worse by the fact that a lot of accusations are difficult (if not impossible) to disprove, especially when they’re about someone's motives or private behavior.
Once the accusation is out there, every possible reaction gets twisted into evidence of guilt. If you deny it, they say you’re being defensive. If you try to explain yourself, they say you’re over-explaining because you got caught. If you get angry, they say your anger proves they struck a nerve. And if you stay quiet, well . . . only the guilty have nothing to say in their own defense.
So the outrageous accusation itself never actually gets tested honestly, and it wasn't supposed to. The whole point was to make as many people as possible believe the claim must be true, no matter what is or isn't said in response to it. And it's nearly as effective as it is evil.
The only way out of the trap is to show that it's a trap, and to ridicule and reject the wicked people who tried to set it up in the first place.