You'll regret it if you get married, you'll regret it if you don't get married. You'll regret it if you have kids and you'll regret it if you don't. Kierkegaard said this 200 years ago as follows - whatever you choose, you'll regret it, because the problem isn't in your choices, it's in romanticizing your life. A person always finds an untravelled path alluring and mysterious. That's why the issue isn't making the right choice. It's choosing and deciding which regret you'll live with. In life, we must choose our regret.
Carl Jung came to this same conclusion.
Avoiding work causes more pain, and ultimately neuroses, than any pain the work causes.
With enough avoidance, one comes to adopt and embrace the part of us avoiding the work until it becomes a personality of “I can’t”
We are seeing that a lot now.
A lot.
if you have a toddler, you learn that they generally dislike transitions. like they'll resist going to take a bath, and then they'll also resist getting out of the bath. then you realize that transitions just require energy and adults don't like them either