Stop spending your best years indoors. There's a whole actual world out there with real people, real experiences, real memories waiting to be made. You cannot look back on your 20s and be proud of the hours you wasted on screens in a dark room. Go outside. Talk to people. Feel things. You were not put on this earth to spectate life.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
Somewhere in your 20s or 30s you’ll get the opportunity to rebuild your life after a negative loop, heal from what broke you, live in your own space, reconnect with your discipline, and learn to love yourself again. It’s very important that you see that journey through.
Man is so addicted to sex that he tries to have a girlfriend for almost every single day of his life, especially between the ages of 20 and 30.
The most interesting part of this Faustian bargain is that he never notices he can never make money because his social life and relationships are constantly consuming his time, energy, and income.
Within seven years, he has little to show for it and never fully recovers.
All of this stems from the same thing:
an addiction to sex.
When you look at the highest-functioning winners, you often notice long sexless periods in their lives.
They build their money, skills, and network first. Then, at 28 or 30, they suddenly have access to opportunities that seemed impossible before.
Even if they lose themselves for a while,
they usually recover quickly because they have financial leverage and a strong network behind them.
Everybody talks about how cruel the world was to Guy A, but nobody notices that he was being paid in sex the entire time.
He spent years with one mediocre girlfriend who consumed his attention, slowed his progress, and eventually moved on.
Deep down, he knew that was always a possibility, but he couldn't give up the beers, the parties, and the constant need for social validation.
He convinces himself that he was dealt a bad hand, when in reality he was playing it safe. Having a stable life with one girlfriend can still be an addiction if it consistently drains your life energy and prevents growth.
The time he spent maintaining comfort was time that could have been spent building a better future.
Now all he can do is resent the guys who waited, built themselves up, and started dating later. Don't resent them.
You did not go through what they went through.
While they were sacrificing, building, and delaying gratification, you were eating cupcakes with your girlfriend.
Eventually, you became the cupcake.
FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT
Become arrogant. Make others gossip about you. Break social rules. Be unapologetic about your actions. Act from your highest will. Remain hopeful no matter what. Walk like you own the place. Move like a winner. Rest because you deserve it. Get things because you want them.
Reality responds to those who live as if they already have the things they’ve always wanted.
Hard work is a lie.
Let reality bend to your will.
YOU ARE PROTECTED BY PLOT ARMOR
Nothing can stop you. Their opinions don’t matter. Live freely. Don’t explain yourself. Everything is rigged in your favor. All eyes are on you. No need to always answer calls. You’re the hero and the villain of your story. Every day is a new opportunity to live by your own rules. Confidence is your neutral state.
People told you to be careful with what you want, so you wouldn’t stand out and stay on the same low level as them.
Walk your path. Your people will find you.