If you want to recover faster from setbacks then skip the "why me" phase entirely and go straight to "what now." Victim mindset isn't just a feeling, it's also a sentence structure.
Change the sentence and you change the trajectory.
You suffer because you try too hard to control. You cling to people, outcomes, ideas about yourself. You take it all so seriously and it makes you anxious and stressed. Release and let go. Live life the way you would hold sand. Not with a closed fist, but an open palm.
painful truth: u MUST develop a strong opinion of yourself, because if u don't, somebody else will do it for u. and trust me... some ppl will reduce your entire existence to their mood, their jealousy, their insecurity, or one mistake u made three years ago. don't let strangers become the author of your identity. damn...jeeezzz .
Confidence doesn't come from believing in yourself. It comes from having done the uncomfortable thing enough times that your nervous system stops flagging it as an emergency. Because nothing is actually hard, it's just unfamiliar.