don’t force yourself to forgive anyone. how you feel about what happened to you is valid. how you feel about the person who deeply hurt or abused you is valid. take as much time as you need to process the trauma that was unfairly done to you.
idk if it’s a red flag but sometimes when I don’t feel like talking, I won’t. I won’t text back, call back, nothing until I feel like talking. and when I need a break, I’ll stop talking to EVERYONE.
when i became a parent, i was prepared for the inevitable tantrums over no cookies for dinner or it's time to turn off the tv to go to bed; i was not prepared for the 15 minute tantrum because he asked me for chocolate milk and i gave him some.