Annual reminder as we go back to school; we should be teaching boys to not objectify girls instead of punishing girls for wearing tank tops and sometimes show a bra strap.
If you’re getting turned on by a shoulder, you’re the problem!
Nobody tells you that one of the hardest parts of ADHD is never feeling fully "done."
You finish the laundry and remember the dishes.
You finish the dishes and remember the email.
You send the email and remember the form.
You submit the form and remember the appointment you forgot to schedule three weeks ago.
The task list isn't a list.
It's a hydra.
Every time you cross one thing off, three more heads appear.
Remember being that little kid who read all day, whenever you could? Devoured books like nobody's business? Turns out we were probably undiagnosed ADHD or autistic just using reading as an escape from the sensory nightmare around us 👀
“You don’t look autistic.”
Thanks I’m currently calculating the right response to every interaction like it’s a mathematical equation while I force myself to make eye contact, move my face in the right away, moderate my tone of voice and suppress every natural urge I have to stim.
As a neurodivergent person I thought it was totally normal reading pages of a book only to realize that you have no recollection of anything you JUST read, and having to start all over. Turns out that’s actually not normal.
The interest on student loans can exceed the original balance. You can pay faithfully for 10 years and owe more than you borrowed. There is nothing fair about this broken system.
This sentence by Van Gogh hits hard:
“If I am worth anything later, I am worth something now. For wheat is wheat, even if people think it is a grass in the beginning.”
Having ADHD means your vocabulary is either:
- toddler-level (“thingy”)
- Pulitzer Prize Finalist (“existential dissonance”)
or a happy little chaotic mashup of both with a little class and a lot of sass.
Person: “You’re too social to be autistic.”
Autistic person: “I’m social for about three hours.”
Person: “And then?”
Autistic person: “Then I need three business days to recover.”
I don't know who needs to hear this, but if you "cured" your ADHD by sleeping 8 hours a night, exercising daily, and cutting sugar out of your diet, then you did not have ADHD to begin with.
Being part of a generation that was told “Wikipedia is not a source” makes it genuinely baffling to me that jobs are now telling people to just use ChatGPT for everything.
People with ADHD will research something obsessively for 3 weeks, become a genuine expert, tell everyone about it, buy all the equipment…then wake up one morning and feel absolutely nothing about it ever again.
i took a 45-minute uber ride home from the airport last night after a brutal, three-day business trip.
i was completely emotionally and physically drained, and my social battery was at absolute zero.
when i got into the car, the driver.. an older guy named kabir.. didn't say the usual "how was your flight?" or turn on the radio.
instead, he just handed me a small, laminated piece of paper attached to the back of his headrest.
it was a literal "ride menu."
it said:
1. *the silent ride* (total quiet, no pressure to talk).
2. *the therapist ride* (if you need to vent about your day, i am listening).
3. *the tourist ride* (i will tell you cool facts about the city).
4. *the radio ride* (we just listen to old jazz and coast).
i smiled, pointed to number 1, and whispered, "silent ride, please. thank you."
he gave me a warm nod in the rearview mirror, adjusted the AC, and drove the entire 45 minutes in absolute, beautiful silence.
it was the most peaceful, therapeutic boundary i’ve experienced all year. i felt my entire nervous system finally reset.
when he dropped me off, i gave him a massive tip and told him, "that menu is a genius business idea. you must get amazing reviews."
He looked back at me and said, "i didn't make the menu to get better tips, dear.
my daughter has severe social anxiety, and she told me that the hardest part of her day is navigating small talk with strangers when her brain is tired.
she told me it feels like running a marathon.
i made the card so that anyone who gets into my car can feel completely safe dropping the mask for a little while."
i walked into my apartment and just sat on my suitcase.
we live in a world that is constantly screaming at us to perform, to network, to be "on," and to over-communicate.
but sometimes, the deepest form of love and respect you can show another human being is just creating a small, safe pocket of silence for them to rest in.
pay attention to the people who give you permission to be quiet. they are rare.
A college student with ADHD once explained why their essays end up filled with so many parentheses:
“Neurotypical people think in straight lines. My brain thinks in a giant web where every single concept is physically holding hands with twelve other concepts.”
In other words, their thoughts don’t unfold in a neat, step-by-step sequence. Instead, one idea immediately triggers several related ideas at once. While writing, it can feel impossible to ignore those connections because they all feel relevant and important, even if they branch off from the main point. Parentheses become a way to temporarily “park” those side thoughts without losing them.
So the essay ends up reflecting the actual structure of their thinking: layered, branching, and constantly interlinked. What looks messy on the page is really an attempt to capture a mind that doesn’t move in a straight line, but in a network where everything is connected to everything else.