That statement is a distortion of Shia doctrine. Wilayah belongs divinely to the Ahlulbayt alone, and no scholar, regardless of status, comes close to that rank. Equating a jurist with the authority of the Imam is a fundamental theological error with no basis in authentic belief.
من يُنكر ولاية الإمام الخميني قدس سره الشريف يُنكر ولاية أمير المؤمنين علي عليه السلام فإن الولاية واحدة وإن كان الإمام علي عليه السلام معصومًا والإمام الخميني قدس سره الشريف غير معصوم لكن الولاية واحدة وإنكارها جحود.
Peace be upon Hussain ibn Ali—the one who lifted the bodies of Ali Akbar, Qasim, Abbas, and his faithful companions, yet when his own head rested upon the sands of Karbala, there was no one left to lift him from the dust.
If your response to your wife's basic needs is "go earn it yourself," then what responsibility are you taking on in the marriage? If two people agree to a traditional arrangement, then the husband should be prepared to fulfill the responsibilities that come with it.
A woman wanting her basic needs met isn't the problem. The problem is expecting her to lower her standards after marriage instead of being upfront about limitations from the beginning. Compatibility saves everyone from disappointment.
Maula Jan(ajtf), peace be upon you—though you are hidden from our gaze, you remain the most familiar name in our prayers, the quiet longing in our hearts, and the hope that adorns our every dawn.