This thread is for young people who are trying to change their lives within the next 12 months.
If you've remained in a zone where it feels like nothing is working out & you want to optimize for better outcomes.
I tried this. It worked for me. Now I share with you.
7 steps:
we must be vigilant against fake news. apparently this is from an acholi traditional marriage in Uganda, where the groom and his delegation must remove their shoes and crawl on their hands and knees into the bride's family home. this is to symbolize extreme humility, deep respect and gratitude toward the bride's parents for raising her.
similar to how the groom and his friends prostrate flat of the floor before the bride's parents in yoruba traditional weddings.
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On this day, children's day, let's all remember that over 50 Nigerian children were kidnapped in Oyo state and are currently being held hostage under the most horrifying conditions, while their president focuses on his diabolical politics.
For these children and their parents and relatives, there is nothing to celebrate.
On this day, children's day, let's all remember that over 50 Nigerian children were kidnapped in Oyo state and are currently being held hostage under the most horrifying conditions, while their president focuses on his diabolical politics.
For these children and their parents and relatives, there is nothing to celebrate.
@ebukahhhh You are the hottest Account on NG tl right now. You are setting the pace for generations to come.
I have a Wells Fargo Bank account. Can I send?
I actually need to leave this place
You people can continue buying your 25k pads and 22k akara
Keep going on shows for people to find out if you’re lapo or Nepo
Actually finish yourselves with tribalism
And keep voting for tinubu until 2056
I’m actually tired, there is no nonsense yall won’t defend or welcome
Who knows what the Nigerian government has been planning all week long that they decided to distract you with Frank and Sandra’s gist from 1992? I mean, a group of teachers got kidnapped, no one flinched. A gas and oil leak happened, no outrage. One of the victims of kidnap was beheaded few days ago and still no bleep! Just this afternoon, a dozen people were kidnapped in a village and everywhere is calm. I saw a video of about 6 women crying on the streets. I wonder if they are the only people left in that village.
But the celebrity gist keeps dropping small, small to keep you glued.
Guys please I want everybody to know that it is not a normal occurrence for kidnappers to stroll into schools, kidnap students and teachers and behead the teacher and the leadership of the country is quiet about it, trust me it’s not a normal thing politics aside!
Yoruba Ronu, do you know that your fellow Yoruba people were kidnapped , a mother with her child on her back, teachers, and poor school children 💔💔?
Now one of the teachers beheaded 💔💔💔💔💔
It has been three days now, yet your “YORUBA PRESIDENT” has not said a word.
This can’t continue.
Tinubu has to resign now 😭😭
A teacher in Oyo State was beheaded, gruesomely murdered and we are all going about our businesses like nothing happened. No protests, nothing. Even when we now know they are now in all States of the country.
Meanwhile, Sheikh Gumi is there, speaking on behalf of the Federal Government and telling Nigerians on live TV that these bandits have to keep murdering cos they are not happy with FG allocation to them and they have to survive.
And we still say there are laws in this country and law enforcement agencies? We are in very big trouble and at this rate, with us sitting and doing nothing but arguing with eachother over Frank Edoho and Malice, it is only a matter of time before it gets to you, to us.
There is no end since we don’t want an end to it. It will get to everyone, eventually.
I swear on my life that this silly mindset is built upon a flow system:
1. The intentional socioeconomic situation of Nigerian women who are not yet economically liberated as much as other countries. Which leads to..
2. The messianic complex the men have. Because taking a woman who has limited financial options out of poverty would make you her alpha and omega. And why do you do that?
3. Because of the need to be in control. The belief that since you've done 1 and 2, you deserve control and her total submission. Only this makes you more masculine. Meanwhile the most control you need to be masculine is control of self. Not others. You don't need control over others. Neither should you elevate out of poverty in exchange for subservient relationships. "After all I've done for her". It was not yours to do.
It's why a lot of us started earning and started decentering our fathers because the control they had was always reiterated with statements like "I will not pay your school fees if you don't...", "I will not feed you if you don't..". Because well, that's a form of control. But control is NOT influence. It's not love either.
Influence is earned. It's built over time. A woman "submitting" to you should happen because:
1. You've acknowledged her as a complete human. A human being in all the complete ways a human should be regarded as. And treat her accordingly.
2. Allowed her freedom (not for obscenities or whatever sexual explorations we think comes with women freedom), but to live safely, work and earn and be free in the way a human should be.
This is possible within social structures like marriages, education system, workplaces etc.
The UK stories are good examples because once criteria 1 and 2 above are met and shes in such society, does she need a man? Oh yes, more than ever. But she needs him more in a way that works for her, not with your money or treating her like a pity job. (I still think that men all over the world are required to provide. But that's different from buying love by flaunting your ability to provide).
Tssk. When you see women as full humans, you'd stop thinking you need to elevate them from poverty. You'd start thinking about enabling them to get out of it themselves. The more women we enable, and who get themselves out of poverty, the more there's reference for "building". They begin to understand what building really means. There is respect for hustle, and when they meet a man, they know what's required is building, not entitlement. But you know this. You know enabling them limits your options, so as you were. We'd all be fine.
So this APC supporter asked me to go and hug transformer because I said I would not vote for Tinubu.
I hugged the transformer for 12 hours straight, nothing happened. No light.
Please everyone should get their PVCs