My therapist told me:
“When a person grows up feeling unseen, they learn to love by over-giving. They pour into everyone else, hoping that, one day, someone will finally pour back into them. So they become the care taker. The fixer. The one who shows up, even when no one shows up for them.”
And the hardest part? Deep down, they're not trying to be strong. They're just waiting for someone to do for them what they've spent their whole life doing for everyone else.
My brother, I know I don't know you... but, as a man, I know you're fighting battles that most don't know about.
Please keep your head up & don't give up on yourself.
You're not alone. ✊🏽❤️
i just realized people who overexplain themselves aren’t looking for validation. They’re just used to not being believed - forced to prove their memories, their pain, their worth, their truth - until they’re exhausted from just existing
As I get older, I’m starting to realise that the purest form of love is consideration. When someone thinks about how things would make you feel. In any bond how much they care about you is found in how much they consider you.
Discernment is real. You can hear stuff that’s not being said. You can feel things and don’t even have to be in close proximity. You can detect a lie from miles away. Sometimes it feels like a blessing and a curse because that third eye is awake.
Embarrassed for what? Life humbled me a few times, but I never folded. Lost people, jobs, love, money still popped out smiling. You can't shame somebody who owns their story. I said what I said.
God will literally sit you down and break you to humble you, then will isolate you to build you. Then give you back everything 10x to prove to you He’s real and everything is for a reason. Keep your trust in Him.