💙 Because people are deciding to come forward about Ina in more details I'll do so here after some thought. Because honestly how my system was treated still pisses me off and has hurt the more delicate members such as Starling and Sugar.
First off introduction. My name is Madness. I'm a member of the sprinkle of Hope system and I'm mostly our depression holder. I also am the one to be angry and protective over my system with abusive behaviors or people we're facing by standing in as host when sugar is too hurt, re-traumatized or newly traumatized to do so.
Some people might read what I say and put it up to "system ignorance" but it comes to a point when it goes from ignorance to dismissing any need to learn or grow. And what Ina did to our system was ultimately dismissal and fake claiming implication.
Some unfortunate background about our system and the general system community that some people don't seem to understand or grasp.
Our system is in fact diagnosed, and it was from years of testing and suspection until official confirmation after a series of events that made a headmate of ours more apparently and active for our psychiatric team when we were 19. We're also, a fictional introject heavy system. Meaning about 90% of our system is introjects off of fictional characters and sources because that's how our brain works.
Fictional intoject heavy systems have been a huge point of contention for a lot of people who don't fully grasp the concept of dissociation and plurality. People see it as just roleplay. And unfortunately, that's what Ina personally implied to us.
We are openly a system streamer because we ultimately want our engagement in the community with our streams and showing what it means to be a system and talking about it to destroy stigma and create an open and safe space for other systems. Now that I got all of this out of the way, I'll start with the actual story.
Ina first interacted with us when one of our mutuals decided to put VTIDE in their handle on twitter after vcxnts burned down (thanks assholes). However, before we could even CHANGE THE VCXNTS from our bio we were immediately messaged by Ina screaming at us about how we're trying to be discreet. So naturally, we panicked and apologized. He mutualed followed us and we were invited to the first wave of VTIDE into the server. (Part one)
VTIDE Staff Anouncement.
If you have had a negative experience with InamazuVT, please reach out to me, @callixir, or @juunostar.
Currently, Inamazu has control over the VoltideVT account here on X.
We have control over the discord as we handle this situation.
We stand with you, and we're trying. Shit hit the fan really fast.
Definitely going to be fighting off this infection and because we have Lupus it's probably going to be a bit harsh on our body more than others ❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹 we were hoping to get back to streaming this week but because of this new development with our health it might take even longer. Damnit
We are extremely accepting of poly and CONSENSUAL mutual flirting cuz that's a thing!!! We had a few close friends we platonically do that with (one of them because they're in a relationship with my subsystem!!)
However the fact that we were being flirted with and didn't reciprocate. Yikes dude. That's not how that works.
People flirting with us while we say that we're mono with our partner have got to Fucking stop. He saw us IN REAL TIME in server talk about how we were recently dragged into a poly BDSM relationship IRL without consent. How we're mono from trauma w our partner sys. Like holy fuck HE SAW US SAY THIS SHIT.
@LittleSoupVT He literally saw us in server going depth about how we were mono with our partner system. So for him to have flirted even past that is like????? What????
Really fucking hope he gets help and learns and can take accountability.
💙 This is very kind thank you.
We understand being autistic and unaware but it goes to a point where being autistic really isn't an excuse anymore for me. Especially when it comes to sexual and bodily consent and respecting boundaries. I don't think anything makes me more mad than people trying to excuse such heinous behavior as sexual harassment with autism (general statement not mad at you)
For the record we are extremely accepting of poly!! We've been poly too!! It's the fact that the things were done to us without consent is the BIG PIECE
💙 it wasn't my place to say your business with your core, but it does really encompass the big reason why it's important for you guys. I'm sorry that he treated you with the ableism and you were caught up in it. And I'm sorry again that he flirted with us it genuinely went over our head and we would have stopped it if we knew..
🍦I'm just going to jump in from right here as I am directly mentioned and my only real experience with Ina was being lied to about pluralkit. To non systems, pk doesn't seem like a necessity, but to some systems it is. To be able to see yourself for you are, especially
While there are many other horror stories that are probably far more severe than what we went through, we were ultimately treated what significant system ableism that made us feel disregarded for our existence and (apparently by his own guilty admission) he flirted with us in ways we didn't recognize because that's how our traumatized brain works. Things go over our head and we don't realize it because we're so used to being used sexually and emotionally. I won't get into our history but we're a system for a reason unfortunately. This was every traumatizing event for my more delicate headmates like sugar and sterling. During this confession yesterday he also tried to throw callix under the bus, which we got further clarification from with the mod team about how this was inaccurate.
As it stands someone leaked our confession about the things he did to us in the discord when everything was being talked about, thus he reached out to us without our consent and tried to apologize and make it seem like what he did wasn't as bad as what it was.
We're not sure who did it but if you know who you are you really should be ashamed of yourself and what you caused our system to go through. Because him messaging us and admitting to flirting with us ultimately reach traumatized our sexual assault history and even recent trauma of an IRL that did horrible things to not only us but our partner system.
Ina. You need to understand that what you did really hurt our system. In many ways. You don't get the right to try to downplay what happened and excuse it, because they were a lot of excuses in that conversation.
With ultimately felt like we were grateful to Ina for giving us a community after fighting to find one for so long from a long line of online harassment that we're finally hopefully escaping.
He also helps spread awareness about our abuser. We were under the impression that he was a good and honest person and we were very much convinced what he was doing wasn't as bad as what it was.
This was damaging for our trust, our system, and us feeling like we can be open as a system without judgment or ableism. Especially by someone we considered trustworthy as a mutual and possible friend.
So we joined and I can't remember (dissociation time sense is weird) how quickly after joining and introduction we asked about the pluralkit being put into place. But we opened w ticket and asked about it.
Unfortunately I don't have the screenshots for that ticket, but I can run down the conversation.
Starling, our pure vanilla cookie fictive, was asking about pluralkit. Ina asked what it was, he explained it's for plural members to use to show who they are one fronting and it's in very helpful tool for systems. He immediately responded how "ok but how will we know which system alter belongs to which system"
"... You get to know each headmate in each system personally"
"Ok but what if it's misused"
"Kind of hard to misuse"
"It feels hard to put in"
"All you have to do is invite it to the server and then make a bot area/channel"
"Well you can just change your profile name in the server"
"No because people have system dysphoria and user change has a cool down and we rapid switch"
"Ok I'll talk to mod team about it"
Cue waiting for an answer for... A day or two. Suddenly without even communicating with us, the ticket closed. No telling us whether they decided or not.
...huh ok
Had to RE OPEN THE TICKET and ask about it again. We kept getting told that it would be put in the next day the next day the next day the next day the next day
And us AND our partner system have system dysphoria. Especially because we are fictive heavy. Especially him ( that's his personal business to share why and how, not mine)
Being a fictive heavy system with a lot of people who tend to fake claim makes it very hard for you to be active in a server without your pluralkit profile. Not to mention we were in a highly abusive relationship with our ex-fiance until March, who prevented and repressed us in our system from using pluralkit which led to a lot of uncomfortable situations we won't get into.
Now, we can't really speak to the fact that he flirted with us/how, but we do know that he let Freudian slip happen yesterday and said that he promised he wasn't trying to make us feel like he wanted to date us he's just very flirty
... So automatically we know that yes he was in fact flirting with us.
Our system has a very bad history with people not respecting our boundaries romantically and especially with our relationship with our partner system. We had a very traumatic situation IRL happened with someone trying to force us into their Polly and BDSM dynamic without consent. Him admitting to what he did with not respecting us and our mono relationship with our partner put my system into such severe stress that we had to have a self-harm prevention headmate out because of sexual harassment flashbacks.
@TrixyRavyn I hope that you never have to be treated the way he did again. Especially over your art. That's disgusting of him. Ina has a lot of fucking shit to take care of.
As a fellow artist who has the delight of doing an art trade with Ravyn while I owe commission, this is not how you treat an artist.
Ravyn, inverse, has been very patient and accepted that I have life circumstances that have prevented me from doing my art like my seizures, chronic illness, and an owed commission that comes first.
You don't treat artists this way. Ever. You're not owed anything and you're not entitled. Ravyn deserves better than this.
I will also make my interactions with Ina and my experiences public. I do not have Blue right now, so I am sorry about that. And I am sorry to anyone who felt like I was fully taking his side; I thought I was not, but I think I was taken advantage of without even realizing it
As little less weve spoken and you've been nothing but a delight, and you have vibrant art and a fun and uplifting personality. You definitely deserved better than this and I hope you heal. I cherish your existence as a person and I'm so thankful for your patience on our end. Well definitely get more work on that art done once we fight off this new infection that popped up 😭.
Guys with all the kindness in the world trusting mutual means we've actually interacted before on more than one occasion and you're someone I talk to a little more regularly. I won't let people follow me and my very personal vent account just because were mutual. TRUSTED mutuals/friends.
If you are trusted mutual you're free to add me on Discord by asking for it here or following our private @sprinkle_ofhope. There's a lot of emotions around the situation that we're trying to figure out and sort. We may come forward at some point when we feel comfortable enough. But for now we need a breather. Even during all of this we've had a friend a hospitalized and we're traveling home for hours and have jetlag, and we're almost physically attacked by a hotel manager. It's been A LONG 24 HOURS (the concert was great though)