It's a mistake to stop saying "um" and "uh" altogether.
Evidence: filler words signal that new information is coming, making it easier for listeners to understand and remember what comes next.
Hesitations don't make you sound weak. They help you... uh... communicate clearly.
Try This at Home: Consider going outside in the morning. Sunlight has a powerful effect on the body's circadian clock. Many conditions have been linked to a disrupted body clock, and morning exposure to sunlight can strengthen daily rhythms.
Brilliant essay with a PG-13 punchline
The Rich Are Not Who We Think They Are. And Happiness Is Not What We Think It Is, Either. https://t.co/HRELqXWm2A
“I’ve never really liked my personality, and other people don’t like it either,” @olgakhazan admits. Here’s what happened when she attempted to change it. https://t.co/CASl00DE57
Emails in your inbox are less urgent than they appear.
New data: we think people expect faster night/weekend replies than they actually do—and they underestimate our stress.
Simple fix: "This isn't urgent, so get to it whenever you can."
Or just wait until normal hours to send.
“I have often wondered,” observes Marcus Aurelius, the Roman emperor and the fount of wisdom, “how it is that everyone loves himself more than anyone else, but rates his own judgment of himself below that of others.”
When people say "I can't change," what they often mean is "I don't want to change."
The greatest barrier to adjusting behavior isn't a lack of skill. It's a lack of will.
Motivation fuels capacity. Before you teach people how to alter their habits, they need to find the why.
“Let me only be still, and know we can force nothing, and compel nothing, can only nourish in the darkness the unuttered sounds of the new life that shall be”—D.H. Lawrence
“Everything depends on the individual human being, regardless of how small a number of like-minded people there is… on each person... creatively making the meaning of life a reality in his or her own being.”
Viktor Frankl's lost lectures https://t.co/VnkTP4gPyI
In too many meetings, great ideas get overlooked because people fail to support them.
New data: amplifying others' ideas helps them get heard... and makes you look good.
One of the best ways to elevate the group—and earn respect—is to champion voices that aren't being valued.