• Feeling safe enough to be vulnerable.
• Being understood without explaining everything.
• Receiving affection without asking.
• Knowing she can be herself around him.
Physical closeness is easy to find. Emotional closeness takes more.
What men call “intimacy” vs. what women sometimes consider true intimacy.
His version:
• Kissing passionately.
• Having sex.
• Spending private time together.
• Physical closeness.
Her version:
• Wants to feel comfortable and respected.
• Pays attention to patience and communication.
• Doesn’t want to feel pressured to impress him.
• Remembers how he treated her afterward.
What men call “first-time sex” vs. what women call first-time sex.
His version:
• Wants to make a good impression.
• Worries about his performance.
• Wants to know if he satisfied her.
• Thinks about whether there will be another time.
Her version: