An emotional response to a situation is the single greatest barrier to power, a mistake that will cost you a lot more than any temporary satisfaction you might gain by expressing your feelings.
To succeed in the game of power, you have to master your emotions. But even if you succeed in gaining such self-control, you can never control the temperamental dispositions of those around you. And this presents a great danger.
Never seem to be selling something—that will look manipulative and suspicious. Instead, let entertainment value and good feelings take center stage, sneaking the sale through the side door.
Emotionally unavailable partners might:
- shut down or avoid any uncomfortable conversation
- deflect "you too sensitive" when you express needs
- express that they feel smothered
- expect issues to resolve without communication
Anger is a healthy response to being violated or controlled.
Anger is a healthy response to not getting your needs met, consistently.
Anger is a healthy response to having your reality denied.
Anger is self protection.