When you in a serious relationship, you’re suppose to move differently. Yeah you grown you can do whatever you want, but certain things are out of respect you have for your partner! It’s not about being controlled or about your partner being insecure it’s a respect thing.
A lot of women demand absolute perfection from men while bringing nothing but "their presence" to the relationship. We expect average, hardworking guys to have the emotional intelligence of a licensed therapist, the income of a CEO, and the patience of a saint. Meanwhile, if a man asks what we bring to the table, we get deeply offended. Good men deserve effort, romance, and to be spoiled just as much as we do.
There is a whole generation of men out here who are absolutely exhausted from being the "transitional guy." They come into your life, absorb all the trauma your toxic ex left behind, provide stability, and love you gently. But because your brain is still addicted to chaos, you mistake his consistency for a lack of passion. You drain his peace to heal yourself, and then abandon him because there isn't enough "drama" to keep you entertained. Men are constantly being used as emotional handymen to fix damage they didn't cause, only to be discarded the second the foundation is stable. It is pure emotional vampirism.